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Cookie2025 · ‎03-10-2010

@smoochy wrote:
situation could have been avoided if Dh had not gone in to office on day off.

.... or the scheduled Nurse could have acted like a big girl and worked her shift without complaint. Its not a good look for that Nurse.

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
Sounds like this coworker could use a bit of kindness. Maybe an offer to buy her lunch or ask what her favorite cookie or doughnut is that can be picked up at a local spot? Just a thought.

"kill em with kindness"
"be the change you want to see in the world"
...

This! He got caught in an overwhelmed worker's bad day. This is probably about the culture and obviously not enough staffing. It's not personal. It's about not feeling like your employer cares about what you do and if you have the ability to make it all happen.

If I were him, I would absolutely do an act of kindness on this day of service and then move on. There are a lot of people having a tough day today for a variety of reasons and it sounds like he ran into one who tried to give herself a break by using him and when she got turned down legitimately, he was convenient to vent all over.

It happens. We have all been on both sides. Show her kindness and then tomorrow is another day.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

After that little tirade I would have said my work here is done and left.

SloopJohnB · ‎04-25-2020

@Laura14 wrote:
@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
Sounds like this coworker could use a bit of kindness. Maybe an offer to buy her lunch or ask what her favorite cookie or doughnut is that can be picked up at a local spot? Just a thought.

"kill em with kindness"
"be the change you want to see in the world"
...
This! He got caught in an overwhelmed worker's bad day. This is probably about the culture and obviously not enough staffing. It's not personal. It's about not feeling like your employer cares about what you do and if you have the ability to make it all happen.

If I were him, I would absolutely do an act of kindness on this day of service and then move on. There are a lot of people having a tough day today for a variety of reasons and it sounds like he ran into one who tried to give herself a break by using him and when she got turned down legitimtely, he was convenient to vent all over.

It happens. We have all been on both sides. Show her kindness and then tomorrow is another day.

@Laura14 @ThinkingOutLoud

While those are two great responses, I have to admit, I don't think I would be that nice. LOL

I would give everything I own just to have you back again.......David Gates of Bread

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

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@deepwaterdotter

Actually it's only one person who is acting out of character according to hubby. Their group has been working together for several years. They are professionals.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@smoochy

It's something he does periodically because he likes being onsite on the hospital. His boss knows, coworkers probably know. These are not office clerks. They are registered nurses with years of experience and advanced degrees and certifications.

icezeus · ‎10-30-2010

She is acting like a child. He has his plans for the day and he is taking care of them end of story.

She would have had to figure it out if he had not put in an appearance, so she needs to handle her business.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@bikerbabe wrote:
@smoochy

Punish the guy for doing extra? That makes a lot of sense. 🤨

Actually doing extra when you are not on the clock and getting paid should not be allowed.

If you get hurt or something goes wrong...there will be big issues. You're not supposed to be there. The company's workman's comp insurance will not cover you and if you make an error, your employer can be sued and their insurance will not cover that either.

Some companies....in fact, most companies will not let you work on your day off for no payment or do any work not on the clock.

The OP's DH was 100% right to refuse to work when a coworker asked, but he should not have been at his desk at all.

He might very well get a reprimand from his employer's legal counsel.

Coastalcarolina · ‎04-02-2015

@Laura14 wrote:
@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
Sounds like this coworker could use a bit of kindness. Maybe an offer to buy her lunch or ask what her favorite cookie or doughnut is that can be picked up at a local spot? Just a thought.

"kill em with kindness"
"be the change you want to see in the world"
...
This! He got caught in an overwhelmed worker's bad day. This is probably about the culture and obviously not enough staffing. It's not personal. It's about not feeling like your employer cares about what you do and if you have the ability to make it all happen.

If I were him, I would absolutely do an act of kindness on this day of service and then move on. There are a lot of people having a tough day today for a variety of reasons and it sounds like he ran into one who tried to give herself a break by using him and when she got turned down legitimtely, he was convenient to vent all over.

It happens. We have all been on both sides. Show her kindness and then tomorrow is another day.

While in theory, showing kindness is always a good idea. But....there are people that only take it as a sign of weakness and therefore, could take advantage of the situation again. She acted inappropriately and expected too much. He said no, end of conversation. Some people have narcissistic tendencies and expect the world to revolve around them. I never went in to the office and threw a tirade if having a bad day. Act like an adult. So no, I wouldn't treat others that way.