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Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Cakers3 wrote:
@smoochy wrote:
situation could have been avoided if Dh had not gone in to office on day off.
@smoochy You know I'm wondering the same thing.

Regardless it would have been better if he simply wished her a better day and left rather than sitting there knowing (we are told) she's mumbling and carrying on.

Cleaning his desk is not important. Journals can be read online.

We do not always know someone's story. Did he ask her why it was important for her to leave? Was the situation calmly explained to her?

Two sides. It doesn't matter the "boss" agreed with him and yes I understand the implications with HR.

Sometimes it's just better to leave the situation alone.

@Cakers3 @chrystaltree

That's what I was wondering .... what was so important that she needed to leave work?

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Tori3569 wrote:
No matter what the line of business, it is disruptive to have someone come in on their day off. This is especially true on a holiday.

The other nurse may have had something to do or someone to take care of and couldn't take off.

The OPs husband coming in and just reading journals or cleaning his desk would get on the other employees' nerves--especially if they were busy.
Been there (on both side) and learned a valuable lesson.

@Tori3569 @chrystaltree

Plus ... what if DH somehow got hurt in an accident, such as falling over an open file cabinet drawer?

I doubt that would be covered by Workers Comp because he wasn't actually working or on the clock.

What a mess that could cause.

Roscoe the Rascal · ‎04-19-2016

Unfortunate, but for me a day from the office is a day from the office. Somebody always try's and take advantage if you pop in for something.

Etoile308 · ‎01-04-2014

Everyone knows their work schedule. You should come to work prepared to work your entire shift in a professional manner. If you need the time off you make the arrangements beforehand. If that still can't be accomplished, well , you suck it up. You realize before taking the job that some jobs require 24/7 coverage.

The thoughts of offering to buy someone exhibiting tantrum like behavior for not getting what they want a lunch, a cookie, or a doughnut, to me is not an act of kindness. It's rewarding bad behavior.

I suspect the on-duty nurse is there working at holiday pay and if the husband had agreed to an unauthorized switch he would not be compensated the same.

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@smoochy wrote:

@chrystaltree wrote:
@smoochy

It's something he does periodically because he likes being onsite on the hospital. His boss knows, coworkers probably know. These are not office clerks. They are registered nurses with years of experience and advanced degrees and certifications.
why are you "educating" me about the nurses credentials? I said nothing to indicate that I was unaware. I'm a retired RN, last ten years of career as hospice case manager.

I was wondering the same thing @smoochy .

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@Desert Lily wrote:
Another thread based on a 2nd-hand (husband said ...) & 3rd-hand (the boss said/the scheduled nurse said ...) story.
It has a 1-sided perspective.

I seriously doubt that an employee with the responsibilities that the scheduled nurse has would suddenly behave that way at the workplace.

I'm not buying this story.

@Desert Lily - Agree that there are two sides to every story. There's got to be more to the story to explain her behavior. Other than cleaning one's desk, everything he needed to do can be done remotely. He should have stayed at home on his vacation day.

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@Tori3569 wrote:
No matter what the line of business, it is disruptive to have someone come in on their day off. This is especially true on a holiday.

The other nurse may have had something to do or someone to take care of and couldn't take off.

The OPs husband coming in and just reading journals or cleaning his desk would get on the other employees' nerves--especially if they were busy.
Been there (on both side) and learned a valuable lesson.

Agree 100% @Tori3569 .

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

Wow, she was out of line. If she needed a day off she should have talked with her supervisor...I side with your husband @chrystaltree

Midmod · ‎03-28-2010

@Laura14 wrote:
@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
Sounds like this coworker could use a bit of kindness. Maybe an offer to buy her lunch or ask what her favorite cookie or doughnut is that can be picked up at a local spot? Just a thought.

"kill em with kindness"
"be the change you want to see in the world"
...
This! He got caught in an overwhelmed worker's bad day. This is probably about the culture and obviously not enough staffing. It's not personal. It's about not feeling like your employer cares about what you do and if you have the ability to make it all happen.

If I were him, I would absolutely do an act of kindness on this day of service and then move on. There are a lot of people having a tough day today for a variety of reasons and it sounds like he ran into one who tried to give herself a break by using him and when she got turned down legitimately, he was convenient to vent all over.

It happens. We have all been on both sides. Show her kindness and then tomorrow is another day.

@Laura14
I really like what you said. I think that's probably exactly 💯 the issue. So yeah, tomorrow is another day. It's best to be forgiving and do a little extra something nice for someone who may need some extra kindness. Sometimes we don't know what issues ppl are having at home either. Thanks for your post @Laura14

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

I believe tat she would apologize when they see each other. She was just having a bad day and was shocked when he said no. Some people don't like that word.