Community Chat

[BeccaLou]

No I wouldn't add fuel toe fire, you are better than that. Don't stoop to her ugly level .

[libbyannE]

Why let it bug you? I would smile, graciously say, "Thank you," and let it go.

[ID2]

I think the OP is being a bit too self conscious. These comments from her neighbor are just that....chit-chat made by a neighbor. They don't sound snarky to me at all! Why let it bother you? I would just kill her with kindness the next encounter you have with her. It'll give her something to think about.

[Imaoldhippie]

@grandma r...................all that said jealous is right.  She is just like a lot of posters on these boards.  They cant say anything nice about anything or anyone.  They are full of self loathing and it makes them feel better to put others down, and find fault with everything.

You could say something to the effect,  my arent we a little grumpy today?  Then walk away.

[qualitygal]

@grandma r,   She's so green with Jealousy, you need to visual her as Kermit the Frog.  Her poor husband is trying to make up for her insecurities.  That just makes her worse.  

Just say, Yes, I clean up pretty good.

Now, is your time to shine with humor.  It's a shame when that happens.  She must be miserable inside.  I pity her.  

[Tique]

@grandma r     first of all I am happy you are a survivor. From my dealings with you, I have found you to be funny, intuitive, and an optimist. [How many years have you been watching our favorite soap and you're still hanging in there because you expect things to get better?]

I worked with someone who was like the lady you described. She was  a thorn in my side until I decided I was giving her WAY too much power. After I stopped reacting to her nasty and demeaning comments, she moved on to other targets. In her case I believe it was her own insecurities rather than jealously. Whatever the motivation it was her issue. Keep on being the lovely lady you are. Don't let anyone drag you down to their level - unless that's where you want to be.

[Karie2022]

Well I agree there is some jealousy there; you sound like a very nice, classy person who takes the high road, so I guess you can just ignore her, or if your like me, get snarky right back at her!  I admit, I don’t always take the high road😂

[QueenDanceALot]

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@sunala wrote:

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@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:

Sounds like she is JEALOUS.

Her husband complimented you, so therefore you must be taken down a peg or two.

Pathetic.

Just continue being awesome while she watches helplessly....

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@YorkieonmyPillow- I thought the exact same thing!!! Jealous old hag!

Remember, when they go low, we go high. You're doing a great job; don't stop now!

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@sunala

While it sounds like the woman is jealous, saying she is a "jealous old hag" isn't exactly "going high".

[SXMGirl]

@grandma r, some people do not realize that how they speak to someone comes across as snarky or nasty.  Since her husband complimented you on your hair, maybe he also says nice things about you at home and that would be a real reason for her to have some jealousy toward you.  If you feel the need to respond, do not be snarky or nasty.  Just tell her that you always try to look your best or that you feel better when you dress up.  Turn it into a positive--do not sink to her level.  I always feel that nasty remarks comes from insecurity.

[fingerlakesny]

That's what females do.  That is why there are so many reality shows with rotten women and the horrible hurtful things they say and do.  People eat that right up.