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[jubilant]

DH and I still share the same bedroom closet and bath but, due to circumstances beyond our control, we sleep in separate rooms at night. He sleeps in our guest room.  We have been married 47 yrs. this month and neither of us think it's a big deal.  We are both sleeping much better so it has been worth it!

[SeaMaiden]

I think it is a great idea. Many times Husband wants to watch his sports channel in bed while reading the paper or such... I would love to have a seperate bedroom where I did not have to hear the roar of the cars going around the track. This plus many other reasons. 

[Pearlee]

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@Nataliesgramma wrote:

We sleep separate. Hubby snores, has restless leg syndrome and grinds his teeth. It used to keep me up all night. When I was going through Menopause...that was it...went to another room and we are both happy campers in the morning.

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@Nataliesgramma All excellent reasons to sleep separately.

[momtochloe]

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@DiAnne wrote:

If I ever got married again I would want my own house.  We could live next door to each other.  I love my privacy and familiarity breeds contempt!

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@DiAnne oh my goodness I almost spit my coffee out over your post . . . thank you so much for my first laugh out loud of the day! . . .

[Pearlee]

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@AKgirl2 wrote:

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@DiAnne wrote:

If I ever got married again I would want my own house.  We could live next door to each other.  I love my privacy and familiarity breeds contempt!

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Why get married?  You could still live 'next door' to each other without the legality issues...no muss, no fuss.

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(1`) For all the legal reasons why gay and lesbian people wanted the right to marry - the laws afford rights and privileges to those who are married that those who aren't married don't have, (2) to commit to each other legally and societally to indicated they are a couple committed [supposedly] for life, (3) because they love each other and want to be married to each other.  (Not listed necessarily in order of importance).   All excellent reasons, no matter where each sleeps.

May I add to that as we age, we need to get up in the middle of the night more frequently for bathroom runs.  In addition to that, my arthritic knee often keeps me up at night or wakes me up at night and I can't get comfortable again.  Why disturb someone else's sleep?   

[missy1]

All new homes should have 2 master bedrooms with a bathroom. 

[SeaMaiden]

I am  glad to hear that I am not the only one who feels that separate master bedrooms are  a great idea. Times change.. our lifestyles change.... It is like going from an out house to indoor plumbing.  It is the same thing.. just improved and more convenient!

[Dusty1]

My husband & I sleep in separate rooms. We do other things together & we get along just fine, but sleep isn't something that we do compatibly. I like to read late, he tosses & turns a lot. He gets up early to an alarm. I sleep until I wake up. I get up to go to the bathroom, a lot. I like having my own space at night. It works for us.

[willdob3]

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@DiAnne wrote:

If I ever got married again I would want my own house.  We could live next door to each other.  I love my privacy and familiarity breeds contempt!

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I have thought about this many times over the years and, if I were to get married at this point in my life, next door would be too close. A few blocks away, or better yet, 1-2 streets over. I have no desire to share my space with anyone 24/7.

[debic]

My Grandparents always had separate rooms so it was always a normal thing to me.   I never asked why.   My older friend and her husband have had separate rooms for over 30 years, she says it saved there marriage.

We've never considered it, but there's many reasons why people do it.   Snoring, restless sleep, etc.   We do have separate top sheets and blankets tho.   I'm a wild sleeper and hubby sleeps like the dead.