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[Marp]

Posting patterns are interesting.   Patterned responses to posts are interesting.  When either pattern changes over a relatively short period of time, especially when the patterns take on a harshness or defensiveness, they are troubling and makes me wonder if the poster is having medical or emotional or psychological problems or stresses.

[Moonchilde]

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@susan in California wrote:

I have always been impressed by single diners.  So many people feel funny or awkward if they dine alone.  I think it means you are confident enough to enjoy your own company. 

Several years ago, I was a docent at a museum that also had a rather upscale lunch available--white table cloths, wine, fancy desserts.  Many of the luncheon guests were solo.  And often they

were very interesting people taking trips and checking out sights alone.

I have mostly only had lunch alone and usually at pretty casual places, but I firmly believe single diners should be offered the same service couples receive.

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@Susan in California I’ve had many fine lunches at LACMA, the Gettys, the Bowers and The Huntington, and the Monterey Bay Aquarium. Museum restaurants can be excellent and elegant if they go that way.

I no longer think twice about it at lunch, but I do feel awkward at dinner alone in a nice restaurant. It’s got less to do with confidence than companionship. While I would read or etc at lunch, I wouldn’t want to at dinner. A nice restaurant meal should be shared in experience. Dinner speaks more to conversation and relaxation than lunch, to me.

My days of “out with the girls” are over because I’ve moved 350 mi from friends and co-workers and anyone I’m around now either doesn’t have the money or just doesn’t enjoy it. No “fault” in me or them.  

[Moonchilde]

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@Noel7 wrote:

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@Katcat1 wrote:

@Noel7  Are you wearing your glasses?  I said Panera (you seat yourself) and a fine Italian restaurant (no problem at all).  I am well aware of what type restaurant Panera is.  You need to get your glasses on.

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@Katcat1

I'm disappointed you have resorted to personal attack.

What you said was: " I have gone to Panera (you seat yourself), a fine Italian restaurant"

The issue is that you and I disagree on your example of a fine Italian restaurant. 

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@Noel7, she was not calling Panera a fine Italian restaurant.  She said “Panera (comma to set it off), a fine Italian restaurant (comma), and/or (another type. Since it was all set out by commas I knew what she meant - although the fact that she happened to use Italian restaurant just after Panera might be confusing.

[Moonchilde]

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@Marp wrote:

Posting patterns are interesting.   Patterned responses to posts are interesting.  When either pattern changes over a relatively short period of time, especially when the patterns take on a harshness or defensiveness, they are troubling and makes me wonder if the poster is having medical or emotional or psychological problems or stresses.

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Just as it never fails to “interest” (and amuse) me how people cruise into threads “worried” or “concerned” about the mental state of others. LOL. 

The time-honored and very old way to get away with taking a slap at someone. So very clever. Bwahaha...

[151949]

When my DH was still working he travelled a lot and so I often stopped on my way home from work to eat somewhere all by myself. I never noticed any of what the OP is saying.

[151949]

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@MickD wrote:

While I've never been refused a table for one.  I would not/have not hogged a 2-4 top with an ocean view...wouldn't feel right.  It is appropriate to sit at a bar and dine as one.....done many a time...and I've met quite a few characters.

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I'll eat out alone - no problem , but I'd never sit at a bar alone. Just doesn't seem ladylike to me.

[sunshine45]

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@151949 wrote:

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@MickD wrote:

While I've never been refused a table for one.  I would not/have not hogged a 2-4 top with an ocean view...wouldn't feel right.  It is appropriate to sit at a bar and dine as one.....done many a time...and I've met quite a few characters.

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I'll eat out alone - no problem , but I'd never sit at a bar alone. Just doesn't seem ladylike to me.

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i just HAVE to ask this @151949....

what makes a woman sitting alone at a bar unladylike?

[151949]

The appearance of waiting to be "picked up" .

 I couldn't care less if you want to go alone and sit at every bar in town - I just said I don't do that.

[sunshine45]

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@151949 wrote:

The appearance of waiting to be "picked up" .

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wow.......just WOW.......

antiquated indeed......