Community Chat

[D Oro]

Madisson, I am so glad that you didn't let the negative and judgemental posters here dampen your happiness. You are entitled to your peace of mind. Even after she moves out, she will not relax fully. I know that it was at least six months before I slept the night through again. I was always on hyper alert status listening for my dad. I had a support group of women that I met here on QVC's forum. They saved my sanity. Before and after my father moved in. I wish you and your family well.

[Madisson]

Still Raining, Thank you...I hope to look forward to that sense of being set free! At least in the beginning I'll know that my mother is in a safe place...one where she can control things. I think she and I both will be much happier with this solution. She saw the apartment that she will be in a couple days ago, and she loved it. It helps that she has two good friends there also. One of them will be just down the hall from her.

mominohio, Thank you for your support. Yes, we did try our hardest to make this work. When we built our house, we built on a mother-in-law type studio apartment just for her. I thought that would give her independence and control, but no...didn't work. She wants to run everyone and everything, and as mentioned above, she has no love for anyone but herself. I just do not feel guilty. We tried so hard, and we were all miserable. We will still "be there" for her if she needs us, and she will be close by. We can see her every day if she wants company. I think only good will come out of this...and hopefully, an improved relationship.

YorkieonmyPillow, It is wonderful to know that you are loved after feeling so rejected by our mothers for so many years. I'm glad that you are so happy. I married a wonderful man that I am madly in love with also, and after 43 years, we are still very much in love and best friends. At least you and I both had happy endings.

D Oro, Yes. There are a lot of wonderful posters on this board. They provide so much understanding and support. It took me awhile to learn to ignore the hateful people. Life is too short to be that bitter and angry. I think some of them have no life (or a very unhappy one) so they get their kicks out of trying to provoke people. Sad.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

Thank you, Madisson. I just feel like everything is going to be allright.