Sibling Greed - Page 2

Luv2Decorate · ‎03-12-2010

Unbeknownst to my siblings, my mother has everything set and in writing. I am the executor of her estate and I told her I can handle any fallout. Many of my friends parents have passed away and the arguments that occurred are unreal and rather disappointing.

Mama Mia · ‎03-10-2010

On 5/7/2014 luvpoos said:
I hope she has a will, if not have her get one soon. These stories make me sad. I have three brothers and we all get along fine and my mother has a will. Everything will be divided among us equally. I do hope I get her beautiful china though since I am her only daughter.

You better have your Mom write that one out for you. Things change a lot when someone passes, you never know who can get greedy, or one of those DIL's may say they want it. You say "I do hope" so that kind of says it's not set in stone. I agree, you should get it though. Smile

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"Cats are like potato chips, you can never have just one".

pistolino · ‎07-04-2011

I'm sorry.

Mine wasn't even gone a couple of days and my brother called to ask if he could have the leftover money in her nursing home trust fund....it was less than $100 for Pete's sake.

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

A will means nothing, it's just that persons' wishes.

My mom had some transfer of death deeds in place and they want them changed.

I'm the POA but mom can sign herself. It's really a mess and I called the courthouse and understand as long as it has her signature on it, it can be changed and they don't need me at all to do this.

I figure after my mom is really gone, I won't have a family at all.

I just talked to a customer that came in and she said something similar happened 3 years ago with her dad and she has lost her family too.

terrier3 · ‎03-10-2010

When my mom died, she was flat broke. My aunt & I had supported her for years.

When she was in the hospital with her final illness, my sister flew in from out of town - hadn't seen mom in 6 years - STOLE her power of attorney and living will (my aunt was the person on the forms) and convinced our mother she wanted to die. The doctors and nurses said nothing could be done until my aunt had the papers (my mom was out of it with kidney failure).

By the time we found out what my sister had done, it was too late.

She thought she was going to get a lot of money. She was beyond furious when she found out there wasn't enough to fully pay for the cremation.

Consider yourself lucky you aren't related to my sister!

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

On 5/7/2014 nantucket shore said:
A will means nothing, it's just that persons' wishes.

My mom had some transfer of death deeds in place and they want them changed.

I'm the POA but mom can sign herself. It's really a mess and I called the courthouse and understand as long as it has her signature on it, it can be changed and they don't need me at all to do this.

I figure after my mom is really gone, I won't have a family at all.

I just talked to a customer that came in and she said something similar happened 3 years ago with her dad and she has lost her family too.

Under what circumstances would a legally-binding, signed will drawn up and filed by an attorney not be upheld in a court of law?

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

A will should be binding but it won't stop any fighting.

glb613 · ‎03-09-2010

On 5/7/2014 nantucket shore said:
A will means nothing, it's just that persons' wishes.

My mom had some transfer of death deeds in place and they want them changed.

I'm the POA but mom can sign herself. It's really a mess and I called the courthouse and understand as long as it has her signature on it, it can be changed and they don't need me at all to do this.

I figure after my mom is really gone, I won't have a family at all.

I just talked to a customer that came in and she said something similar happened 3 years ago with her dad and she has lost her family too.

Where did you go to law school? A will is a legal document and means a lot!

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

I hear of this sooooo much! Even people who never imagined their siblings would be this way often see them turn into monsters.

I guess if one concern is for something in particular that you want, it's best to completely iron that out ahead of time. That said, however, geez! Who wants to talk about that kind of stuff with their parent? My father would start talking about that kind of stuff and, truth be told, and even though I understand the practicality, I just didn't want to hear it.