Showers and Gifts and Cards! - Page 2

jonbon · ‎03-09-2010

I think people have to keep in mind that what is commonly done for these events varies A LOT depending on geographic region and/or local customs. For example, I grew up in a fairly rural area, and people usually brought wedding gifts to the wedding. There were frequently kids assigned the "job" of taking care of collecting them. Also, I had never even heard of the idea that one was supposed to give a gift in an amount to make up for the amount spent to entertain them at the reception/dinner until I read it somewhere as an older adult. (I believe some sources do say that is an outdated idea these days.)

Then again, where I grew up, it was (still is, actually) common to put a monetary gift in a sympathy card—some people are appalled by that idea, too.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

@jonbon

At one reception, I was unprepared for a money dance where the men paid to dance with the bride and women paid to dance with the groom. The food varies too, not always catered, sometimes families prepare a buffet. The Greek and Italian food was wonderful, better than any catered I've had at other weddings.

Rockycoast · ‎03-02-2016

@JeanLouiseFinch You can post mag articles till the cows come home, doesn't make it so.

It has always been give what you can afford.

Invited guests are not the ones to pay for the bride and grooms wedding. That is their and their families' responsibility. There is no let me figure out the cost of the wedding and give accordingly, Never has been like that. People gift what they can afford to and that is it.