Re: Should he Stay or Should he go ?

Goodie2shoes · ‎04-30-2012

He has 3 adult children, I have 2 and we both have grandchildren, he is retired from the military and a retired police office. I'm not concerned or need his benefits should he die and would be willing to sign a prenupt (we have not discussed this) because my benefits would go to my children.

jaxs mom · ‎04-18-2012

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
@Trudey wrote:
What will marriage give you that you don't already have? He sounds like a keeper to me. Marriage is only a piece of paper.

Good question, I have my own home, can come and go as I please, can spend time with my grandsons (21 months and 17 years old) I can watch what I want on TV I guess It's the commitment. My dear mother even asked me why I would want to get married !! Maybe I'm asking to much ?

You can have all those things, and be married. Or not. You can create whatever relationship parameters you both agree to regardless of the piece of paper.

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occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

You have the best of both worlds. You have no responsibility to him, you won't have to take care of him if he becomes seriously ill, or be responsible for his bills if his money runs out.

I assume you do not live together, so you don't have to accommodate his habits or modify yours. Men in that age group who are all you say he is are scarce. There will be women waiting in line to replace you while you may be looking to replace him for a very long time.

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

There doesn't seem to be any reason not to stay, given everything else about him. However, if in your heart, you feel like you would be settling then I think you should go rather than try to talk yourself into something that doesn't feel right to you.

To me, it sounds like a good set-up, having your own place and routines, money etc but I can understand wanting to be married too.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

@ncascade wrote:
You do not share values. So go! I know you will not, but that is my advice.

That would be a deal-breaker for me.

Mmsfoxxie · ‎06-19-2010

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
@I'm a very happy girl @ 66 yrs old, retired and financially stable, own my home. I have been dating a 62 year old man exclusively for a little over 1 yr and he is also retired and financially stable. We are very happy, never argue, he treats me very very well, takes me to dinner (I also cook), we go bowling, he surprises me with roses, he's never late, stays fit and keeps his word all the time. When I met him, I told him I was looking for someone to build a great relationship with and eventually wanted to get married. Later in the relationship he told me he never wants to get married again. We love each other very much but since we have different goals I'm thinking about ending the relationship and moving on until I find what I am looking for because at my age, no need to waste my time. What would you do ???

@Goodie2shoes, Have you asked him why he didn't share with you that he didn't want to married when you told him that was your goal? It seems that he was not truthful with you.

“You can’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore to be happy”. (By Nightbirde, singer of the song, It’s Ok)

anonymous23 · ‎03-10-2010

@Goodie2shoes wrote:
@I'm a very happy girl @ 66 yrs old, retired and financially stable, own my home. I have been dating a 62 year old man exclusively for a little over 1 yr and he is also retired and financially stable. We are very happy, never argue, he treats me very very well, takes me to dinner (I also cook), we go bowling, he surprises me with roses, he's never late, stays fit and keeps his word all the time. When I met him, I told him I was looking for someone to build a great relationship with and eventually wanted to get married. Later in the relationship he told me he never wants to get married again. We love each other very much but since we have different goals I'm thinking about ending the relationship and moving on until I find what I am looking for because at my age, no need to waste my time. What would you do ???

He should go. Why settle. You want more then he's willing to give. No woman should ever settle for less.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

Keep him as a friend, different residences, but move on. This is what I'd do, and I'm not you. You know best, just stating my vote on it. He stated his plans, I wouldn't want to be his maid and housekeeper (mom) and if he really doesn't want to move in the direction you do, you can find your own path. I think you know this already. Good luck.