Re: Should I send a sympathy card?

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@beach-mom Send the card. Remember that although her husband is suffering this loss, so are other family members. Children?

He may very well not be the only one who will read the sympathy cards, so a card with maybe condensing what you wrote in the email would be helpful for others to understand how much your friend meant to you.

We need to remember that there are others mourning a death; I know when I've had deaths in the family cards were shared and read.

I am sorry for your loss.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

CANDLEQUEEN · ‎03-09-2010

Yes, definitely send a card with a nice handwritten note. It will mean a lot to him down the road to look at and read your personal comments.

K9buddy · ‎03-09-2010

I don’t think there’s ever a time where anyone can express too much sympathy and compassion for others. Of course send a card.

SXMGirl · ‎07-07-2010

@beach-mom, Since you have already connected with her huband and expressed your feelings, in a few weeks, instead of a s sympathy card, you might want to send a thinking of you card. I would wait until things settled down before sending it. If she had a favorite charity, you might want to send a donation. If you are comfortable doing so, you might want to e-mail or speak with her huband in a month or so, just to lend some support. Too often, when everything settles down, the spouse is alone and could use a friend. My condolences on the passing of your friend.

The next time that I hear salt and ice together, it better be in a margarita!

JYWilliams · ‎03-10-2010

I would send a card.

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

@beach-mom wrote:
I'd like your advice on this.

A good friend of mine just passed away. We worked together on projects, and that is how we met. So I didn't see her every day. I always enjoyed being around her and her husband, and I valued her advice. DH knew them well too.

We never socialized together outside of that, but I can honestly say I loved her.

The last week she was alive her husband and I e-mailed back and forth because I had to fill in for her for some things. I "talked" to him a few days before she died, and I had been to see her in the hospital shortly before that. I never thought she wouldn't get better. Someone else she worked with e-mailed me right after she died.

I immediately e-mailed her husband and poured my heart out about how much she meant to me. He responded right away with some kind words of his own. Both DH and I are going to visitation and her memorial service.

Because of the e-mail I wrote - where I pretty much said everything - do you think I should also send a card to her husband? TIA for your help!

@beach-mom Sure, send a lovely card... bringing everything to a close.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

If he replied to the e-mail, no; if not, yes.

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

@beach-mom wrote:
I'd like your advice on this.

A good friend of mine just passed away. We worked together on projects, and that is how we met. So I didn't see her every day. I always enjoyed being around her and her husband, and I valued her advice. DH knew them well too.

We never socialized together outside of that, but I can honestly say I loved her.

The last week she was alive her husband and I e-mailed back and forth because I had to fill in for her for some things. I "talked" to him a few days before she died, and I had been to see her in the hospital shortly before that. I never thought she wouldn't get better. Someone else she worked with e-mailed me right after she died.

I immediately e-mailed her husband and poured my heart out about how much she meant to me. He responded right away with some kind words of his own. Both DH and I are going to visitation and her memorial service.

Because of the e-mail I wrote - where I pretty much said everything - do you think I should also send a card to her husband? TIA for your help!

@beach-mom My first reaction is of course, why not? A hand written note/card is always more personal than an email.