SORRY BUT - Deliberate snark or ? - Page 6

SunValley · ‎04-19-2010

Often times this phrase is used by parents (or employers) to start a sentence that actually means "you have brought this upon yourself, the consequences are on you, and I now have to set you straight." It's no wonder we often don't react well when it is used during adult conversation.

Pearlee · ‎06-11-2011

@Moonchilde wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
@Q4u wrote:
Aren't the dynamics interesting? I think that anyone who feels they have to one-up someone, be nasty in their replies or have a contemptuous attitude on an obscure little chat board in order to feel superior (and you can actually "feel" this!)..... deserves to be ignored. It's that simple and I give it the old college try ....
You probably shouldn't have posted here either then.

OTOH, snark is also recognized in all its forms :-)

You should know, with all your expertise.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@Pearlee wrote:
@Moonchilde wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
@Q4u wrote:
Aren't the dynamics interesting? I think that anyone who feels they have to one-up someone, be nasty in their replies or have a contemptuous attitude on an obscure little chat board in order to feel superior (and you can actually "feel" this!)..... deserves to be ignored. It's that simple and I give it the old college try ....
You probably shouldn't have posted here either then.

OTOH, snark is also recognized in all its forms :-)
You should know, with all your expertise.

It takes no expertise at all to recognize it in some people. 🙀

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

GingerPeach · ‎03-12-2010

Could any of the posts beginning this way be because, as some articles or studies have pointed out, that women in particular often use the word "sorry" -- especially in business dealings.

I know the OP is about "sorry, but" and I am sure that at least a few posters are deliberately trying to couch unkindness with that preface, but sometimes those less sure of their words may use the preface also.

Sorry, but perhaps I could have said all of the above more clearly.

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Lila Belle · ‎01-24-2013

Sorry, Pearley, "but.".. .we're ALL guilty at times. Some more than others.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@GingerPeach wrote:
Could any of the posts beginning this way be because, as some articles or studies have pointed out, that women in particular often use the word "sorry" -- especially in business dealings.

I know the OP is about "sorry, but" and I am sure that at least a few posters are deliberately trying to couch unkindness with that preface, but sometimes those less sure of their words may use the preface also.

Sorry, but perhaps I could have said all of the above more clearly.

I understood you, @GingerPeach.

I can see that, depending upon where they live and perhaps their age, a woman might be schooled to believe she needs to use sorry as a preface. Sad in this day and age, but entitely possible.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

GingerPeach · ‎03-12-2010

@Moonchilde wrote:
@GingerPeach wrote:
Could any of the posts beginning this way be because, as some articles or studies have pointed out, that women in particular often use the word "sorry" -- especially in business dealings.

I know the OP is about "sorry, but" and I am sure that at least a few posters are deliberately trying to couch unkindness with that preface, but sometimes those less sure of their words may use the preface also.

Sorry, but perhaps I could have said all of the above more clearly.

I understood you, @GingerPeach.

I can see that, depending upon where they live and perhaps their age, a woman might be schooled to believe she needs to use sorry as a preface. Sad in this day and age, but entitely possible.

I was trying to joke, but I guess it fell flat. (Sorry, but I refuse to use emojis all the time!)

Thanks, @Moonchilde The thread is compelling.

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StillFuntoShop · ‎12-25-2015

During my first year of teaching, I worked with a streetwise young lady in 7th grade. Often she would preface a statement by saying, "No offense, but..." and then of course we all knew she was going to offend someone. I worked with her all year on trying to help her out with that one, lol! At least she gave us warning...

Desertdi · ‎03-13-2010

A couple years ago, the check-out clerk at Albertson's said to me (without any "sorry" preface), "You could do a lot better at fixing your hair." They permanently lost a customer.......................

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