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[jellyBEAN]

I attended a small gathering (12 people) and was being introduced to the group.  One of the persons there I recognized as I see this person out n about in the neighborhood, but I don't know her or ever have conversation with her, but do say Hello if I see here in passing.

So during the introductions she said to me, yeah my name is _______ but you called me _______, but that's OK.  Now this is in front of a group of people I am just meeting, other than the one who invited me.  If I said Hello _____, and it wasn't her name, I obviously made a mistake and didn't recall her name, as we don't know each other at all, other than saying Hello.  I apologized if I did say her name wrong, but it struck me as jeeeeez lady, did you have to call me out in front of the entire group who I am just meeting?

Anyway I was embarrassed and others mentioned I would be quizzed on all their names at the end of our meeting.

Am I being overly sensitive?  I don't do well in groups to begin with as I am usually by myself and prefer one on one friendships, and I brushed it aside and laughed about it, but I felt singled out and uncomfortable and am not sure I want to attend any more meetings with this group.  What say you?

[goldensrbest]

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@jellyBEAN wrote:

I attended a small gathering (12 people) and was being introduced to the group.  One of the persons there I recognized as I see this person out n about in the neighborhood, but I don't know her or ever have conversation with her, but do say Hello if I see here in passing.

So during the introductions she said to me, yeah my name is _______ but you called me _______, but that's OK.  Now this is in front of a group of people I am just meeting, other than the one who invited me.  If I said Hello _____, and it wasn't her name, I obviously made a mistake and didn't recall her name, as we don't know each other at all, other than saying Hello.  I apologized if I did say her name wrong, but it struck me as jeeeeez lady, did you have to call me out in front of the entire group who I am just meeting?

Anyway I was embarrassed and others mentioned I would be quizzed on all their names at the end of our meeting.

Am I being overly sensitive?  I don't do well in groups to begin with as I am usually by myself and prefer one on one friendships, and I brushed it aside and laughed about it, but I felt singled out and uncomfortable and am not sure I want to attend any more meetings with this group.  What say you?

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Yes, over sensitive.

[kaydee50]

I can understand your feeling uncomfortable about what happened but  I wouldn't take it too seriously.  I would have just said "Oops, senior moment!"  If you enjoy the group--not sure that's the case since you don't like being with a lot of people--I would continue.  Otherwise, drop out.

[Desertdi]

@jellyBEAN 

No.   You should feel INSULTED by a very rude and arrogant person.   di

[CalminHeart]

I'd probably gush "Oh! I'm so sorry" and move on. 

I would laugh with the others. Quizzing names later is a standard, common joke that I've heard for decades. 

No need to be embarrassed. Everyone does it at some point in life. 

[CalminHeart]

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@Desertdi wrote:

@jellyBEAN 

No.   You should feel INSULTED by a very rude and arrogant person.   di

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I would tell someone if they got my name wrong. Not everyone is good with names and it's not a big deal. Not an insult.

[TheMemphisVette]

i am so old.  this has happened countless times

in work and social situations

i have forgotten more names than i can remember

folks forget my name

it's common and happens all the time

for me i admit to crc and get a good laugh out of it

[sunshine45]

it didnt sound as if it was said in a mean way at all.

i think you are being overly sensitive.

now you know, which is a good thing.

i dont like calling people by the wrong name, nor do i like mispronouncing their name and have no problem if they respond with the correct name or pronounciation

[SilleeMee]

Had it been a business meeting where you were the boss then, yes, getting peoples' names right would be important. But in your situ, I wouldn't sweat over it.

When I was a kid my dad once told me that a person's name is one of the most important things to someone. I never forgot that.

[Imaoldhippie]

More than likely everyone in that room it has happened to at some time (forgetting names).  I can understand being embarrassed, but I would not let that affect going to the gathering, even it you decide later down the road you dont like it and want to quit.