Community Chat

[jlkz]

@jellyBEAN 

Absolutely not: the person who pointed out that you had called her the wrong name while out walking is the one who should have been embarrassed for not correcting you the first time !   

Obviously someone who needed to be the center of attention at your expense...she should apologize to you.

After many decades of being in hot spots in different types of organizations, I have found using my quick sense of humor deflected a lot of nonsense and game playing.  If it was a situation in which I was the leader, I remained the leader.

Whoever was introducing you should have had the sense to quickly smooth over the inappropriate remark with a nod to how easy it is to mistake someone's name...that's why they created name tags, lol !

[ThinkingOutLoud]

The person who corrected you in that way showed a lack of tact and that's on them so I wouldn't let that determine if I kept attending. 

[Bonkers1]

I would say you go girl.  Put on your big girl panties and go enjoy yourself.

[on the bay]

It sounds like she said it in an embarassing way though It would have been more embarrasing if she didn't tell you and you kept calling her by the wrong name only for others or her to correct you later on.

She could have just quietly said her name, but still don't take it too personally because it sounds like she is not worried about hurting anyones feelings.

I can imagine myself saying Oh I'm so sorry and also saying what I say often-

If you remember your own name you are doing ok and there may be  days, you can't remember that!

[QVCkitty1]

It was ham handed of that person to call you out in front of a group. It could be brought up later one on one and spared your feelings. 

[faeriemoon]

I forget names two seconds after being introduced.  The woman should have kept her mouth shut and simply let the mistake ride.

Idiot.

[Still Raining]

Two thoughts:

Long ago when you were first greeting her, she should have stoped and introduced herself.  Right then and there.  This is all on her.

Second, I would evaluate the tone at the meeting and the ongoing comments.  Depends on how friendly they are.

[FranandZoe]

That person could certainly have handled it better.  She was rude IMO.

And as far as being embarrassed or overly sensitive - you can't help your feelings.  But you did nothing wrong - you just know that woman in passing - it's no wonder you forgot her name.   I wouldn't let that incident keep you away from the group in the future. You have nothing to be embarrassed about.  SHE should be embarrssed and actually should apologize.  In front of the group!  Just kidding about that last part but it would be nice if she apologized to you.

[Carmie]

I get called the wrong first name often and have all of my life. I used to quietly correct people, but it continues.  I mostly just let it go.

 I also have an ethnic sounding last name that REALLY gets misprounced.  I have to spell it out. And, they still get it wrong.

I would never call someone out in front of a group if they made an error.  Your "new friend" needs better manners.

No, you shouldn't feel embarrassed.  Just let it go.  I am sure the group has forgotten about it by now.  

Everyone makes mistakes with names; it's not a big deal to most.

[San Antonio Gal]

Yes @jellyBEAN .  You are being overly sensitive.