Rudeness from stranger. What would you do? - Page 5

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

It's one thing to be loud and disruptive in a class setting (totally inappropriate) but when you're on the open floor in a gym you have to understand that there are going to be noises going on that you may not really want to hear, but it's just part of working out in a gym.

And I've worked out in gyms for over 30 years. Show me a gym with no annoying sounds, and I'll show you an empty gym.

BlingQueen022 · ‎09-23-2012

@NativeJax wrote:
@blingfling....
Guess I needed to put "just joking" sheesh....I did put LOL but I did put how rude people are on this forum thankfully there are others, like yourself who are so pleasant to debate with...have a pleasant day

@nativeJerk. I predict I will be reading about you in the paper and on our news channel. It's just a matter of time. Have a fabulous day exercising your finger.

nun ya · ‎03-09-2010

Yes, it probably isn't wise to some to confront him, but he's going to know you told anyway. I would rather hash it out with him right then, than to let him stew for week from being told on.

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

@AnotherView2 wrote:
@Kardi wrote:
I believe I'd have done exactly what you did. Although my gut reaction would be to tell the idiot where to go, realistically that wouldn't change him and would only be lowering me to his level. For me the worst thing about encountering someone like that is that it emotionally upsets me for days although it isn't my fault. Telling him off wouldn't make me feel any better.
Agreed. I was a wreck all day yesterday after I left the gym, I had trouble falling asleep last night running it over in my mind, and here I am posting about it this morning. It was a real shocker to me.

@AnotherView2 Please don't let him do that to you although I completely understand. Regardless of anyone's point of view, there is a right way to ask someone to refrain from doing something if it's disruptive for any perceived reason and his way was completely and totally unacceptable. Just be glad you don't go home to him every night or work next to him during the day. Hold your head up. No one deserves to be screamed at or humiliated in public.

NativeJax · ‎01-27-2015

Really "bling" your the one who sounds hostile....God Bless your "little" heart....

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

One thing I don't get here: Why are people so combative when someone says they are bothering them? Is it a big deal to tell the friend "I'll talk to you later?" Are we all so threatened when we can't do exactly what we want that this is a big deal?

Sorry, but if I'm bothering someone, reasonable or not, if it is easy NOT to bother then, it's almost always no big deal to comply as far as I am concerned. I don't get the big whoop about this. Yes, the guy is nuts, but it takes away nothing from you to solve the problem quickly and let it go. . .

But that's just me. It wouldn't be worth the stress to do otherwise.

AnotherView2 · ‎06-19-2011

@sidsmom wrote:
@AnotherView2 wrote:
.....go over to verbally confront him but, I'm glad that I didn't because it may have come to some violence.

Wow.
I was reading along going,
'yeah, I know exactly what she means'.....
then....this ^^^ was mentioned.
Negates anything prior.
That's a whole-lotta unnecessary emotion into a minor incident. Immediately makes me think there's more, much more, to the story.

Was he right for raising his voice? Of course not.
But....maybe he WAS right.
Maybe this wasn't the first time people were talking in the area.

And if you were talking about supplements & job search....that's a long conversation....more than a head nod & 'Wassup?!'

It would only take one time for someone to point this out.
I would stop, apologize & move on.

I do know conversational noise can be VERY disruptive.
Just recently, in a room of 60 bikes, music on the loudspeakers, instructor cueing the routine....there were 2 gals in the back of the room quietly carrying on a conversation. The instructor kept looking around...trying to figure out who was talking. He finally had to turn off the music & ask "WHO is talking? Please take the conversation outside!". Six rows behind me...I could hear it, as well. It bugged all of us.

Even when you're listening to your iPod, if someone 3 treadmills down is quietly talking to someone...or even on their phone....it's VERY disruptive. You can hear every word. Don't know what's the science is behind that...but we just do.

Being a 'regular', the rules might have gotten a little loose. I would take the high road. I would 'own it' and apologize next time I would see him & move on.

When I said it would come to violence, I mean on his part, not mine. I thought of getting off and going over to confront by explaining that we WEREN'T being that loud, we hadn't been talking that long, etc. But he was so filled with rage, he may have lunged at me.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
Playing devils advocate here is my pov.

I teach on occasion Spin at our local gym as well as having managed and supervised over the years from that stand point I would look at both sides.

Was he rude in his delivery? yes but he obviously felt you were too loud. Not saying you were just looking at his side.

Would I go to management? yes because they should be aware of a situation that may have the potential of escalating. Having had to speak to members I always tried to have an open mind and hear both sides before speaking.

Personally nothing is more annoying then working out and having to listen to someone else's conversation. You may think your not distracting or loud but you could be. When I workout I don't want to hear other people. That is just me and yes being in a public spot that is inevitably going to happen. The trade off of working out in public but that being said, I would hope my fellow gym goers would observe that talking can become distracting and using the excuse music and weights clanking is not pass to carry on conversation. While others around you are trying to concentrate. You don't know where this guys head was at. And just because you are a regular dosen't mean you get to ignore common courtesy of not interrupting others workout.

@AngusandBuddhasMom

ITA ..... I don't know what's typical for that particular gym, but if you can hear a conversation from 3 treadmills away, the OP was talking too loud.

People often want to do their workouts and mind their own business. Yes, he probably could use a good pair of headphones, but that's neither here nor there.

To me, this is the same as people waiting in a line and some dummy is on their phone, talking so loudly that everyone becomes involved, whether they like it or not. It's really annoying.

IMO, a hello/goodbye is fine .... otherwise, take a break and enjoy your actual conversation somewhere else. Not everyone wants to have to listen to you.