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[muttmom]

I have no advice to offer but I hope you are able to see your son more often.

Your sister sounds like a special lady.

[dooBdoo]

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hsawaknow wrote:

Thank you Doo, I do take a anti depressant. Maybe I need something else. Your right about a move. Too major right now. Thanks for all your advice.

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You're welcome, @hsawaknow.  What I'm thinking of is something specifically for anxiety.  There are several good options which work quickly, and I'll bet if your doctor knew how much you're suffering s/he would want to help.

[ShowMe]

Oh dBd.....where were youwhen I was going through that other horrible time in my life....don't know if that was worse, or if what I'm going through now is worse.  But, if it will helpOP, you are so full of helpful suggestions........and if she's smart, she will heed your advice.......

[Lucky Charm]

The offer from your sister in CO sounds good, as long as you two have a great relationship as it stands.

What you are experiencing may be too much for her and you to be able to live under the same roof.  How often are you together?  You may talk to her 2/3 times a day, but living in her home is a whole different ball game.  I mean that in the sincerest way.

I think it best to be around for your little one.  The relationship is still there and it CAN get better.  If it takes meds, yoga, prayer or just putting one foot in front of the other, make yourself available to him and make the best of it you possible can.

It could be a simple as going swimming together/day at the beach, cooking pizzas or tacos together, go carts/amusement parks or if all you can afford is tons of Play Doh, go for it.  Just do it.

Your other children will see that you are taking him under your wing and that may trigger some long lost feelings for you.

I hope so.

[feline groovy]

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@NUNYA wrote:

Maybe living with your sister would be good. Sometimes, it is easier to tackle things when you have someone to guide you and understand. Then it's not all that scary. 

Wish you luck in whatever you decide.

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YES;  a new start in a new (and wonderful) state - when you're ready.

Where most things (rents included) are cheaper than in CA.  8)

[spud188]

Re-read the replies from your last post asking for advice..lots of helpful info that time.

[NC Bandwagon]

Hello, hsawaknow.

I'm sorry that you're going through so many troubles. I hope it gets better for you.

[RainCityWoman]

I'm no expert in social work, but I'll throw in my two cents. If you have a close relationship with your sister, and it seems that you may, I think you would be in a nurturing environment with her at the moment, which is what you need. However, I think while you're there, you also need contact with a professional who can help you work through this and come out on the other side with renewed strength.  Depression doesn't get better by itself. May you find happiness once again in your life.

[SydneyH]

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@hsawaknow wrote:

I have been trying to hang in there. The first thing I did was file court papers to get more hours with my son. My next thing is a therepy appointment and the psychytryst appointments. The last thing is l have developed in the last 2 weeks a terrible amount of fear which has caused me to have an upset stomach and loss of appettite. I tread everything and afraid of the unknow and in a constant state of panic and worry. Oh and fear. My sister invited me out for a visit to Colorado and even invited me to live there. I currently rent a room in California. My 2 older chilldren still wont speak to me and my youngest son turns 9 in week Im at a crossroad and I dont like it. Im not a go getter or self starter. I havent worked in 16 years and went from living with my parents to getting married. Anyone have any advice. Im in a fragile state. Have been for about 4 weeks now. Please help if you can or have experience. Thank you so much.

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You might want to seriously consider at least a long term visit with your sister.  Do you have a lawyer helping you with the custody agreement?

[dooBdoo]

Thinking of you today, (((hsawaknow))).  I hope you're okay.