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[chrystaltree]

People post theit opinions and thoughts.  Good, bad or ugly and it isn't for me to lecture people on what they should post.  If I don't like something I can skip by it, I'm not required to respond.  Also how we receive something is often a matter of interpretation. Im not perfect.  Sometimes I do respond  to something when I should have let it go by but I don't engage in arguments.  No one wants sugary sweet, hugs&kisses board in which no says anything worth listening too.  

[deepwaterdotter]

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@BlueFinch wrote:

@Sassycoco Yes, I get what you're saying. Some behaviors here can be disturbing. But, I don't think it's much different than any other area where lots of different people are communicating with one another, except here, it's anonymous. 

It makes me think of the crazy interactions I witnessed over half my life, working in a large hospital. Unbelievable behaviors between well educated, professional staff. I'd sometimes think -- am I working with kids? But, I think a lot of it was a response to the extreme stress levels.

When people lash out, or they're rude, or argumentative, it's usually an effort to deal with their own internal issues. The receiver needs to remember this and not fuel it. 

So, that said, the negative stuff here rolls right off my back. I know it doesn't for some though. Some leave, or they're afraid to join in because of it. That part, I do find sad. No one should be run away second to unpleasant posts. 

Being fairly new to the forums, you haven't yet created your shield, to deflect from posts that disturb. With practice, you'll become more immune.

With upsetting posts, it's best to stay off the keys. Don't respond. If you do, it's just secondary gain for the poster. 

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Very true.

[jubilant]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

People post theit opinions and thoughts.  Good, bad or ugly and it isn't for me to lecture people on what they should post.  If I don't like something I can skip by it, I'm not required to respond.  Also how we receive something is often a matter of interpretation. Im not perfect.  Sometimes I do respond  to something when I should have let it go by but I don't engage in arguments.  No one wants sugary sweet, hugs&kisses board in which no says anything worth listening too.  

@chrystaltree  I agree with this post...only I would like to see QVC put limits on what can be said about hosts. If we did that to each other it would be reported and go "poof".  Complaints about hosts, imo, should be in writing to the company.

 Quite frankly, I blame this on QVC more than the people here. It turns me off when an employer allows this kind of thing to go on.  Free speech has become..."anything goes".  Look where it is getting us.

[tototwo]

Welcome to the boards!
I've come here for eons, but don't come often anymore. I have favorite posters I trust, and a few posters I avoid no matter what. You'll figure it out.
Glad you're here. Enjoy!

[GingerHead]

@Sassycoco 

How are you feeling after reading all these posts?

I hope you haven't felt put through the ringer by some posts...

Anyway, hope you haven't been scared off! 

[haddon9]

I must be totally oblivious!   Yes a few posts might be a bit snarky but I just don't see a lot of nastiness....maybe it's because I can step away from the computer and get on in real life.  So often I will write a heartfelt response to a thread but hours later will just forget about it.

I have been here since 2005 and can remember when it was really nasty some days back then!  There was little moderation if any and a few posters attacked one another regularly!  If I saw something that I didn't like I just moved on.

[GingerHead]

@haddon9 

I'm not saying anyone was particularly nasty.....

Was just checking on her is all....

Edited to say: I guess I was referring to the more snarky responses as you call them but I actually thought most of the responses were very nice.  

[Sassycoco]

@GingerHead
@tototwo

Thank you , I appreciate everyone's opinions !

I honestly didn't mean to sound as though I'm lecturing anyone....this is my point .

Sometimes we post things ,they get lost in translation.

I definitely understand, what some are saying ...about different opinions, etc...

I 💯 agree ,I have read such compassionate
touching ,inspiring responses to other people, who needed advice ,or simply just to vent about what's going on in their life.

I consider myself....Perfectly Imperfect !
This post was just honestly, for honest feedback....opinions...

I truly Thank you ALL ....I do apologize for repeating this same question, and all my other mistakes.

To anyone I offended, I'm truly sorry .

I'm definitely not pointing fingers, calling anyone out in particular.
Believe it or not ,this was just something I myself thought...darn ...maybe I should of said this differently, or this wasn't at all what I was trying to say!

I think of this in everyday life !

[Sooner]

The biggest problem I have here is when someone reads what I post, puts their own spin on what I said, add elements to it thatI did not write or intend, and goes off bashing me for something I never said or alluded to or intended.

Can't people just read what someone says and leave it at that now?

[haddon9]

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@GingerHead wrote:

@haddon9 

I'm not saying anyone was particularly nasty.....

Was just checking on her is all....

Edited to say: I guess I was referring to the more snarky responses as you call them but I actually thought most of the responses were very nice.  

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@GingerHead I had not seen your post when I posted mine and was responding to the OP.  

It was just my thoughts on the topic in general not to any one particular post or even the responses on this thread.