Relationships And Compromising - Page 4

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@Jordan2 wrote:
@on the bay wrote:
@QueenDanceALot wrote:
There is always compromise, and of course it's never always 50/50, but I want to know why Meghan had to give up her elderly dog.

That bothers me.
This was my first thought too. That is sad.
I did see a picture of her with her dog, holding him -the one that talked about how she was upset that he broke both of his legs(article didn't say how!). I thought maybe it was when she was in the US for a visit or a previous photo.
I'm surprised about that-her giving up her elderly dog.

I think I read the trip would be too hard for the dog to endure. I believe someone she knows is taking the dog. Meghan did or is taking another dog with her. I can’t help thinking how heartbroken her elderly dog will be not seeing her anymore. Hopefully he will live out his days being well cared for.

The issue was the old age, plane ride and traveling. Her dog could have went on a boat and broke up the traveling time. Breaking 2 legs (her other dog)! I wonder about that.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

Animals, both dogs and cats, have health and emotional issues as they age, just as people do. They are quicker to organ failure.

From the Daily Mail:

“Unfortunately, she had to decide to leave Bogart behind in North America because he was thought to be too old to make the plane trip across the Atlantic.

“For some dogs, the plane trip and lengthy approval process to enter the United Kingdom can be pretty arduous. To secure permission to live in the U.K., a foreign dog must be microchipped and travel in an airplane’s cargo section, which can be dangerous for some pets, according to Dogfriendly.com.

“The owner also must bring documents showing that the animal has received vaccinations and been tested and treated for various infectious diseases, including rabies and tapeworm. Dogs that don’t meet these requirements are subject to a quarantine of up to six months.

“In an interview earlier this month, Markle revealed that one of her dogs — presumably Bogart — found a home with very close friends of hers, while Guy had been in the U.K. for a while.”

If the dog (or cat) is elderly they will often have kidney failure. They can’t regulate their body temperature - that’s why so many pets die in cargo holds. There are several reasons to do with the animal’s age and general health, neither of which anyone here knows personally, that would give reason to believe that an elderly dog, no longer in great health, could die during a flight or their organs shut down out of pure stress, medication or no medication.

PSA over - you can go back to insinuating now.

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libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

I would never make a blanket statement. One cannot judge a relationship from the outside in. And how would one measure/quantify degrees of compromise, anyway? I suspect that relationships in which one or both partners worry about who is compromising more are unhappy ones! We've been married for more than 40 years, and I've never thought about that question. I just asked my husband, and he said he hasn't, either.

Bri36 · ‎02-20-2017

I’m sure she knows what she’s doing. She has choices and has made them

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

MM lives an actor's life. Leaving home and moving from city to city isn't new to her. Being with a prince is something she may perceive as having more assets than deficits. Probably easier for her than women who have preceded her.

True friends give and take on compromise. They reason and are considerate of one another's preferences and needs. The longer I live the more I realize a good marriage is a true friendship.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

I'm only guessing that MM will have a 'different' life. She's old enough to know that her life will change. I'm only guessing that she was presented with a 'list' of her future duties, detailing the special events that she's required to attend, Royal protocol, etc. She most likely had to 'sign' something. Well, it's better to have it all written out ahead of time. No surprises, more or less. p.s. It might be a good idea for engaged couples to have things 'in writing'. Maybe see a pre-nuptial counselor. Fill out a questionaire. That way, there aren't any (or many) surprises. Jmo.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

@cherry wrote:
I've been married to the same person for 53 years. I think that if you go into a marriage keeping score, from the get go, it is never going to work

She isn't marrying into your average family. She is marrying into a tradition , and a nation, and a lifestyle, all that goes with it. She isn't a child ,nor is she stupid. I am sure she has a good idea about what will be expected of both of them

If you aren't prepared to live according to the demands of this life style, you should never take it on.

Childish score keeping is just that, childish

@cherry ^^^^^ THIS! As usual well said. ITA.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

SUHsE · ‎03-12-2017

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
There is always compromise, and of course it's never always 50/50, but I want to know why Meghan had to give up her elderly dog.

That bothers me.

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I don’t think giving up her Dog had anything, to do, with becoming a Royal!

I believe the older Dog, was not well enough, to travel, such a distance. Sounded like she’s still hoping to get him over!

Happiness Is Inside JOB · ‎06-14-2016

One thing I learned as I got older, everyone has a "different" definition of GOOD. What makes one person happy, or what is important to another person --- the next person could care less.

Leaving her career, and her family/friends may not be that important to her. She might not be that "tight" with her family, her career might not be her long term goals and she might want this new life.

I do agree, compromise should be a two way street but once again, every relationship is different.

Happiness is ALWAYS an inside job,
Don't assign anyone else that much POWER
in your life!!!

Isobel Archer · ‎04-04-2015

I think people should do what is healthy for them. As noted, she is well aware of what she is getting into - as apparently was Diana (who knew about Camilla before the wedding). Yes, of course, being a princess can seem to outweigh all obstacles and there is always the idea that one can change the rules after the fact, but sadly, that isn't often the case.

I wish her well and if she decides eventually that she can't live with the situation, she can follow the precedent of others who got a divorce.