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[muttmom]

You deserve better. Send back his ring.

[bathina]

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

You deserve better. Send back his ring.

I'd sell it to recover the cost of at least one of his visits.

[muttmom]

On 4/23/2014 bathina said:

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

You deserve better. Send back his ring.

I'd sell it to recover the cost of at least one of his visits.

If you break the engagement, in most states you have to return the ring.

[Raindrop7]

Thank you all for telling me what I knew already deep down. I DO deserve better than him. I guess I needed to hear it from impartial observers. Thankfully I'm not paying for the private eye. It's a friend's uncle and he's doing it for nothing.

Just for the record there are two houses next to each other on his Mom's property and he lives in one. He says his apartment in his house is old but I found pics from 2010 on his facebook page and the outside looks very nice. And he's not a Mama's boy. In fact he doesn't speak very nice about his Mom at all and does very little for her. Another red flag.

I think he's a master manipulator and liar. And his seeing a married woman and expecting her to leave her husband and family for HIM speaks volumes about his character.

In some ways I will miss him but I know I need to do this. I am better than this and deserve better.

[Raindrop7]

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

On 4/23/2014 bathina said:

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

You deserve better. Send back his ring.

I'd sell it to recover the cost of at least one of his visits.

If you break the engagement, in most states you have to return the ring.

If I sold the ring I would probably get $50! I actually bought a diamonique ring to wear because his was so embarrassing! It's a ring a teenager would get as a promise ring!

[bathina]

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

On 4/23/2014 bathina said:

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

You deserve better. Send back his ring.

I'd sell it to recover the cost of at least one of his visits.

If you break the engagement, in most states you have to return the ring.

I'd let him sue me for the $200. The OP may get $35 for it at a pawn shop. BTW, there are only a five or six states that require the ring to be returned.

[bathina]

On 4/23/2014 Raindrop said:

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

On 4/23/2014 bathina said:

On 4/23/2014 muttmom said:

You deserve better. Send back his ring.

I'd sell it to recover the cost of at least one of his visits.

If you break the engagement, in most states you have to return the ring.

If I sold the ring I would probably get $50! I actually bought a diamonique ring to wear because his was so embarrassing! It's a ring a teenager would get as a promise ring!

Sorry- we posted at the same time. Do yourself a favor and pawn the ring and take the $$ and have a mani pedi or a massage or facial. At least you'll have gotten something for yourself out of the deal.

[Marienkaefer2]

There were several points in your story where I thought, "no way!"

I have one word in my head...LOSER!!!

Drop him like a hot potato.

Give him the ring back, whatever. WHO CARES? Why would you want to keep anything from him?

Get him out of your life and MOVE ON.

Did I make myself clear?

[shorelady]

RUN, DO NOT, WALK to the nearest exit! I have never seen so many red flags in my life.

As for the ring, return it as a final and symbolic gesture that you are through. It does not seem worth selling/pawning it. Even though you may be lonely, never lower your standards or accept anything less than the best for yourself.

[lulu2]

Judge Judy would say return the ring then RUN.