Community Chat

[happy2write4u]

Ford,

I am glad as well that everything worked out for you.

[brii]

Ford, I'm so glad everything turned out okay.

Terrible things happen in hospitals every day. Sometimes it's the doctors and nurses that are at fault and sometimes the patients are at fault - sometimes it's nobody's fault.

The best we can do is be informed and speak up.

[JaneMarple]

On 1/8/2014 Ford1224 said:

On 1/8/2014 Melania2 said:

I am sorry you experienced that. It had to be very frightening.

In is so wrong.

I get your point that it can and does happen....why don't people get that and blame families/patients? Your examples show that.

Wait till it happens to them.

One of my daughters has worked in hospitals for 16 years. She is not a medical professional, she is in the IT Department which runs their computer systems. But she hears a lot . . . news travels fast in these hospitals, especially bad news. There is a "closed mouth" policy, but they do talk among themselves. There are many incidents with unaware patients that never get reported to the families, let's just say that.

It is being said more and more, a hospital is not necessarily the safest place to be anymore. One has to be one's own advocate, if possible . . . or the family must know they have to be alert to what is going on at all times.

Ford I would like to ask a question that came up last night.

Do you think that with the modern technology of entering the patient's information in the computer that said information can be manipulated or falsisified?

[biancardi]

On 1/8/2014 Sushismom said:

I don't think anyone is denying mistakes happen in hospitals. And most have said if the hospital was at fault, they need to be held responsible.

However, the fact remains that only one side of this story has been told. That's the point many are trying to make.

ITA with everything you said...I believe everyone has stated that there needs to be an investigation

((((Ford)))) I am sorry to hear this. I have my own personal stories as well in the hospital, but I choose not to share them - however, I totally can relate to your experiences.

[SurvivedOne]

Unless you have genuine proof anything was, is amiss, what is the point? Suggesting family members passed due to some sort of "professional" neglect, where is the proof? Do you really think the daughters would want this suggested while grieving? Most of us have been through several family members with ongoing terminal and/or progressive illnesses. As well as having bad things occur when they really shouldn't have. People pass when things suggest everything may be ok. I speak from experience. But I would never place any blame/and or responsibility on anyone unless I was a hundred percent sure it was warranted. Live your life in the present and be grateful you have your children.

[Marienkaefer2]

I'm very sorry for the grief and also the mistreatment/malpractice that your family suffered! Thank you for posting these experiences here. We have had similar situations, though not as severe as what your loved ones went.through.

What really struck me was your daughter's tonsillectomy experience.

I agree with you that, unfortunately, we cannot always assume that we can trust the "professionals."

But I just wanted to tell you..please don't blame yourself! You did the best you could at those that time!

As a result you know better, and you can remind is to know better, too.

[mgm2]

Ford, I'm so sorry for your experience with your daughter.

[sophiamarie]

Actually, the tonsillectomy experience happened with one of my sons. The truth was, he was hallucinating and coming out of the anesthesia. Some come out of it very calm and others try to fight and say they are in pain, when they really arent...... I would hope there was an anesthesiologist besides the doctor there when the daughter was having her tonsils out, besides a couple of nurses??? I would also hope at least one of them would have known what was going on. JMO

[LilacTree]

On 1/8/2014 JaneMarple said:

On 1/8/2014 Ford1224 said:

On 1/8/2014 Melania2 said:

I am sorry you experienced that. It had to be very frightening.

In is so wrong.

I get your point that it can and does happen....why don't people get that and blame families/patients? Your examples show that.

Wait till it happens to them.

One of my daughters has worked in hospitals for 16 years. She is not a medical professional, she is in the IT Department which runs their computer systems. But she hears a lot . . . news travels fast in these hospitals, especially bad news. There is a "closed mouth" policy, but they do talk among themselves. There are many incidents with unaware patients that never get reported to the families, let's just say that.

It is being said more and more, a hospital is not necessarily the safest place to be anymore. One has to be one's own advocate, if possible . . . or the family must know they have to be alert to what is going on at all times.

Ford I would like to ask a question that came up last night.

Do you think that with the modern technology of entering the patient's information in the computer that said information can be manipulated or falsisified?

He*l*l, yes. Having headed up the computer department in a CPA firm for over 20 years,
absolutely no doubt.

Now, I must say I don't think it happens often, not an every day thing in the hospitals. If my daughter has ever encountered that, she has not told me, which is just as well.

[sidsmom]

...lots of blame. The doctor, the hospital, the attorney...even yourself for not pursuing. At the end of the day, you're the one that has to look in the mirror. I thought the love of a mother for her child was unwavering. Why was there a disconnect this time?