Community Chat

[San Antonio Gal]

Since you gave them until Oct 1st to reply, they have plenty of time to respond.  If you don't hear by the 29th, perhaps text or email or even a phone call to certain ones.

[Group 5 minus 1]

Texting ,e-mail, phoning is a little silly. If they show up and there is no space for them. Too bad.

[faeriemoon]

I am often a late RSVP-er.  Sometimes it's difficult to RSVP early because we anticipate other obligations around the time of the event and therefore aren't sure of our availibility until a time closer to the RSVP date.  If you gave them until October 1, you can't be annoyed (yet) that you haven't heard from a lot of people.

[We rescue cats]

This is so sad but I think it is a statement about the social mores today, or where they are heading. So many folks don't seem to understand that a commitment needs to be made to the friend and/or the restaurant. I was just talking to a friend who is going thru the same thing she said 2 people told her that they were waiting to make sure they didn't get any other invitations that they wanted to attend. I would have told them that I would make it easier for them and withdraw mine.

[Group 5 minus 1]

@Biftu Of course, if someone shows up w/out an RSVP you are free to tell them whatever. But there is not enuff food to go 'round so those that did RSVP are first in line.

[Group 5 minus 1]

@faeriemoon :Well,aren't you special?

[faeriemoon]

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

@faeriemoon :Well,aren't you special?

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@Group 5 minus 1 And what exactly is your problem?

[faeriemoon]

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@We rescue cats wrote:

This is so sad but I think it is a statement about the social mores today, or where they are heading. So many folks don't seem to understand that a commitment needs to be made to the friend and/or the restaurant. I was just talking to a friend who is going thru the same thing she said 2 people told her that they were waiting to make sure they didn't get any other invitations that they wanted to attend. I would have told them that I would make it easier for them and withdraw mine.

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That's pretty insulting, and I would have done the same.

My comments (above, who someone had a problem with) referred to obligations, not "a better offer."  For example, I have a mother who has some health issues, business commitments, etc.  I would just want to make sure I was in the clear to respond yes and not have to worry about reneging on my response.

[Group 5 minus 1]

@faeriemoon Here is my prob: You are so busy you cannot even RSVP.

[Citrine1]

People are rude, rude, rude!  I can't stand when I ask someone to RSVP by a certain date and they don't.  Common courtesy seems to be a thing of the past.

On the other hand, I was invited to a wedding recently.  With a month still left to respond, I had the mother of the bride call me and very indignantly ask if I would be attending as they hadn't heard from me yet.  I was on the fence about going and her call helped make my decision.  

While I sympathize with your situation, I think you have to honor the date you gave people to RSVP by.  

As others have suggested, perhaps an e-mail or text the day before as a reminder that you have not yet heard from them.