@Laura14 wrote:
@MyGirlsMom wrote:
The only status I have on my facebook page is, "married." I don't have the city nor state where I live and my posts are, "only me."
I block people who are obvious trolls on sires I post on. There are people I know who I don't want to know of my facebook existence, I block them too.
Facebook has given us tools to use, avail yourself of them.
@MyGirlsMom Doesn't work on the suggested friends list though. I did that exact thing except I had no status, no friends, an assumed name, and everything ME only and it still suggested some of my employer's customers, family, etc. be my friend and (I assume) I theirs. I think I was well disguised but you never know.
I couldn't possibly block every single person in existence that I came into contact with on a professional basis on the off chance that FB might recommend them to me and me to them. They need an opt out of that in my opinion but they won't do it because it probably messes up their algorythms and subsequent targeted ad revenue if a vast quantity of FB users suddenly went private even to them.
I actually googled this issue to see if it was just me and there are several articles of people being recommended their ex-stalkers, crazy boyfriends, people they had fallen out with and hadn't seen in years, etc. And in each one, FB would not tell the journalists what criteria they use to pull those people from so that we can protect ourselves by not opting into things or using applications that might be driving it. And for the record, I had zero contact imports and zero applications tied to FB. I also used a spare never ever used email account. I was as pure as you get and I still couldn't get away from it.
My issue was really minor compared to someone who actually does have a real stalker on their hands and gets reintroduced via FB. I just want everyone to be aware that it's not always user error which causes FB frustration. It's the actual platform itself for a few of us. Just be completely understanding of what you are using and how unprivate you really are if that is at all a concern for you.
And it's not just FB. I was shocked when I signed up for an IG account, again with a brand new email never used on FB or anywhere else. My entire family came up as recommends to follow and I deleted it immediately. It's frustrating not to be able to use what everyone else is enjoying without having your entire family along for the ride every time.
This all sounds odd to me. I'm not doubting you, please don't think that. I just don't understand it.
I've been on IG for approximately 2 years, and I've never had a family member come up as recommended. It certainly sounds as though something else is going on. This is clearly not just a FB issue.
You can make your IG private, btw. And you can use any kind of name you want. My name on IG has absolutely nothing to do with my real name. Not for any real reason other than I was in a whimsical mood when I set it up. But if you used a fake name, your family wouldn't know that it was you even if you showed up as recommended.
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