Punishing the victim or avoiding a problem? - Page 10

12andcounting · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/19/2014 glb613 said:
I'd rather give up than have the kid get beat up everyday at school. There is a time to draw a line in the sand and a time to not. Plus, I'd be worried about a boy who wanted a "my little pony" backpack.

I agree with you, glb13.

pinkskates4 · ‎03-10-2010

I am NOT saying any form of discrimination or bullying is OK.

However, I also think that kids need to learn to get along with each other without constant hovering by adults.

The idea that everyone must embrace "who I am" does not translate well into the work place later in life and lessons learned about how to deal with bullies on your own can help immeasurably in living a happier life.

Maybe instead of running to the media, a class in self defense would have served this child better.

Lila Belle · ‎01-24-2013

It's the law that who one is must be ""embraced"" in the workplace.

pinkskates4 · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/20/2014 Lila Belle said:
It's the law that who one is must be ""embraced"" in the workplace.

Just stop. I am not talking about discrimination that is illegal.

There are many ways to be a team player - or NOT to be.

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/20/2014 Lila Belle said:
It's the law that who one is must be "embraced" in the workplace.

"embraced" so you are making the judgmental stereotype that because this male child likes my little pony he is gay?

My daughter played with trucks and collected dinosaurs when she was a child. What assumption would you make about that?

This child's mother is correct in allowing her son to play "girl" toys but if she did not take the time to explain to him how unfortunately society would look at that. Then she is just as bad as the so called bullies. She is pushing her agenda on nine years old who do not have the capacity to see it any other way. Because they are still looking to adults for guidance. And why because as a society we all have been taught girls play with girls things and boys with boys things.

My daughter was ostracized by obnoxious little girly girls who only played with dolls. But I explained to my daughter ahead of time and she knew what to expect. Since she was not willing to fall into their nasty exclusion of her, she made friends with others.

My point is he does not need to play the victim role. He needs to understand and learn from it in the way a nine year old can understand human intolerance for things that are different.

esmeraldagooch · ‎03-10-2010

This young man was featured on the GlennBeckProgram yesterday. He was soft spoken but very articulate for his age. Don't make assumptions if you don't know what you're talking about.

http://www.glennbeck.com/2014/03/19/watch-9-year-old-bullied-for-liking-my-little-pony-joins-glenn-...

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

We have twin Grands who are almost 9. I asked if My Little Pony is popular with this age group. The reply was a resounding NO. Their 3 year old sister likes My Little Pony.

I wonder about the 9 year old boy's maturity level.

pinkskates4 · ‎03-10-2010

Whatever the cause of the bullying, it is most easily stopped when the bullied person stands up to the bully and not when the bully gets a lecture on how his/her behavior is not nice and makes someone else feel bad.

Look at the situation with Putin. We have lectured him that his behavior is "inappropriate for the 21st century." And the result is......

SydneyH · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/20/2014 Dagna said:
Whatever the cause of the bullying, it is most easily stopped when the bullied person stands up to the bully and not when the bully gets a lecture on how his/her behavior is not nice and makes someone else feel bad.

Look at the situation with Putin. We have lectured him that his behavior is "inappropriate for the 21st century." And the result is......

I don't see the correlation. Putin, whether the US likes it or not, is on a course of reviving Russia back to a major super-power entity. This boy, imho is being somewhat manipulated by his family into making a statement over a backback at school. His mother is making a statement, but at what cost?

pinkskates4 · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/20/2014 SydneyH said:
On 3/20/2014 Dagna said:
Whatever the cause of the bullying, it is most easily stopped when the bullied person stands up to the bully and not when the bully gets a lecture on how his/her behavior is not nice and makes someone else feel bad.

Look at the situation with Putin. We have lectured him that his behavior is "inappropriate for the 21st century." And the result is......

I don't see the correlation. Putin, whether the US likes it or not, is on a course of reviving Russia back to a major super-power entity. This boy, imho is being somewhat manipulated by his family into making a statement over a backback at school. His mother is making a statement, but at what cost?

Actually, I think Putin is doing more than that - we will see how the situation with Syria and Iran play out.

But in any case, I was talking about bullies in general.

I do think in this case, the mother is provoking the situation - for whatever purpose - TV time, sympathy, who knows - rather than actually trying to solve the problem.