Community Chat

[VaBelle35]

We have an HOA and our covenants are clear about outside lights and where they need to point.

If you don' thave an HOA that someone in your city or county government should be able to address it with them through proper channels and a letter.

I would not continue to try to approach them.  It is clear they don't want to be approached.  Some people just don't want to engage, for whatever reason, so continuing to try to force them to engage with you is a waste of time.  Even if you trap them and force them to talk to you, it probably won't go well.

[september]

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@haddon9 wrote:

People complain about an HOA...I'm glad that I live in one.  Something like this wouldn't be tolerated.

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Yes. I'm moving into one soon.  Just waiting for it to be finished!

I too, had problem neighbors in the past. Tried all the suggestions mentioned here and more.  Nothing worked. Not my problem anymore. 

[Mom2Dogs]

@lovesrecess ....Could you find out if there is an ordinance in your city/village for installing that type of light?  If so, the city can  go out and tell them or send them a letter.

If not, I'd keep trying to make contact with them, they may not realize it's an issue for you.

There is a house one street over from ours...one of our bedrooms faces the back of their house (there is also a house between our houses)...they have a very bright light in one of their rooms and it shines into the bedroom!  It's not a huge issue since I have shades in the bedroom and it's only an issue at night, but I do feel your pain.

[QueenDanceALot]

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@ann1989 wrote:

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@lovesrecess wrote:
I hate to have the police show up at their door when I haven’t told them about the problem, but we do have a police officer who makes rounds in our area each night. I have checked and they aren’t breaking any laws....that’s why I was hoping to speak to them as a friendly neighbor....

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@lovesrecessif they continue to make themselves unavailable and you never run into them at the grocery store, then I think shining a bright light into their house needs to be reciprocated as an educational tool.  There doesn't seem like there's any other way if they are unwilling to communicate and you don't want to call law enforcement. 

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@lovesrecess @ann1989 

I remember seeing a "Fear Thy Neighbor" episode on ID when this was how the neighbor handled it and it did not end well.

I don't think that's a great way to handle the situation.

[occasionalrain]

Showing up at the neighbor's door, uninvited, was presumptuous. Many have learned through past experience to keep neighbors at a distance. Sending them a letter would have been better.

[VenturaHighway]

@lovesrecessI would get the curtains.  If not, it could cause more problems in the future.

[suzyQ3]

We had a similar problem when we moved into our current home. Thankfully, the culprit was a streetlight. The city fixed the problem.

I guess that isn't very helpful, is it? :-)

[AuntG]

You already know they are not friendly. Only if they are breaking an ordinance would I contact them - via registered mail. Otherwise, buy some blackout shades/curtains.

[CelticCrafter]

I'm not sure I'd call them problem neighbors because they don't wave back or wouldn't answer their front door.

If I'm home alone I will not answer my front door and don't really care if they can hear the television or saw me sitting on the couch when they came up the walkway.  Does that make me a problem neighbor?

[Anonymous032819]

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@CelticCrafter wrote:

I'm not sure I'd call them problem neighbors because they don't wave back or wouldn't answer their front door.

If I'm home alone I will not answer my front door and don't really care if they can hear the television or saw me sitting on the couch when they came up the walkway.  Does that make me a problem neighbor?

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@CelticCrafter 

No, but it might make you "not friendly"!