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[Yahooey]

@SouthernBee 

when i choose to spend time with friends

it is supposed to be a good time 

i can choose or not choose to spend time

as opposed to family obligatons which may be trickier to opt out of

that being said - will you be enjoying time with these people

birthdays aside

will they insist on giving you advice on cleaning services or why did you decorate that way bc i remembered some of these friends were not so kind

will seeing them cause you more stress than pleasure

is the house clean enough - how will i entertain them - what will i feed them

these seem to be all areas that are overwhelming

invite who you want to invite

not this person bc she is friends with the other friend and then invite the 3rd friend who is driving bc one has a broken wrist

smaller, intimate may be best and dont feel you have to invite a whole group

if you just want to see ur friend and the family from out of town 

great - that may be enough

forget the gifts - you stated you didnt want to exchange

if they want to gift you something - just say thank you

if they are friends - they did not listen but did what they wanted to do 

and if they dare say anything about not receiving anything

they have eyes - they can see - they should see your situation and help you

not stress you out

you do what you want - WHAT YOU WANT

not what is expected or what has always been done in the past

your life have changed so much since last year

if they do not understand - not worth having them as friends

[SouthernBee]

@Yahooey : Thank you. Well stated and I totally agree . Considering just hanging loose. I don't have the energy and not feeling great. Plus never know about the pain situation and sitting in regular chairs make my feet and legs swell. DH just reminded me to order another travel pillow to keep in the car for doctor appointments.

Don't know why but dealing with a lot of nausea and not on any new medication.

[SouthernBee]

Hi Y'all. I have something funny to share. I asked DH to cut my toe nails. He replied: Which one? I replied : The last time that I looked - I had 10 🙄😯🤓🤓🤓. He did a good job and didn't hurt.❤

[PamfromCT]

@SouthernBee, With everything you are dealing with, give yourself a break with the gifts.  Consider a pretty card with a gift certificate included.  Just a thought.

[PamfromCT]

@Yahooey, Wonderful advice for Southern Bee.  Are you available for different consultations?  I would like to know!

[PamfromCT]

@SouthernBee, I hope you can give your doctor a call about your nausea.  

And, please, please, never apologize for sharing your challenges here. We are friends who care so much about you.

[MyShadowLove]

@SouthernBee ...Wise words from our @Yahooey ...You have always done so much for everyone...so caring and thoughtful....Now it is time for you to think of yourself and take care of your health and do only what is comfortable for you...True friends and family and those who really care are those who are always there for each other...in good times and difficult times. 

@cowboy sam ...YAY...Your packages are arriving...I'm happy that you have received your special Firefighter pendant...a loving remembrance in memory of your dear husband.  

@PamfromCT ...LOL...We shall declare our @Yahooey our consulting therapist along with her precious Zoe as assistant giving lots of soothing purrrrrs! 

@loveschocolate ...We see you!...Hope all is well and you are staying cool and comfortable in your lovely lakeview home.  

[loveschocolate]

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@Yahooey wrote:

hi ya @loveschocolate 

how have you been? i see u hearting

i bet the lake is absolutely stunning

nice and cool bc of the water?

or extra buggy bc of the water

are u growing or landscaping -? flowers?

nosy people wanna know

sending u lubs ♥️ 

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@Yahooey , your kitchen is going to beautiful! The lake water temperature is comfortable this time of year. Even in the mountains we have had high temperatures, just like everyone else but not as brutal. We haven't had hardly any rain. It's ALWAYS buggy by the lake! 😆 I'm growing cherry tomatoes, and big boy tomatoes in pots on my back porch, as well as, green peppers. Right now I'm cat sitting "Beau" for my daughter for 3 weeks. She just completed her residency and is on a well deserved trip out west. Beau and my cat CeCe.....that's a work in progress. We shall see. No fur flying, no fighting....😝

Hissing, yes. 🙄

[loveschocolate]

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@Yahooey wrote:

@SouthernBee 

when i choose to spend time with friends

it is supposed to be a good time 

i can choose or not choose to spend time

as opposed to family obligatons which may be trickier to opt out of

that being said - will you be enjoying time with these people

birthdays aside

will they insist on giving you advice on cleaning services or why did you decorate that way bc i remembered some of these friends were not so kind

will seeing them cause you more stress than pleasure

is the house clean enough - how will i entertain them - what will i feed them

these seem to be all areas that are overwhelming

invite who you want to invite

not this person bc she is friends with the other friend and then invite the 3rd friend who is driving bc one has a broken wrist

smaller, intimate may be best and dont feel you have to invite a whole group

if you just want to see ur friend and the family from out of town 

great - that may be enough

forget the gifts - you stated you didnt want to exchange

if they want to gift you something - just say thank you

if they are friends - they did not listen but did what they wanted to do 

and if they dare say anything about not receiving anything

they have eyes - they can see - they should see your situation and help you

not stress you out

you do what you want - WHAT YOU WANT

not what is expected or what has always been done in the past

your life have changed so much since last year

if they do not understand - not worth having them as friends

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@Yahooey  Great advice! @SouthernBee ^^^^^THIS^^^^

[SouthernBee]

@PamfromCT : Wonderful to see your post. Thank you. I have decided to do nothing.Like everyone else dealing with the high cost of everything. My checkbook feels like it's an open window  and everything escaping extremely fast. My list of necessities are long. DH mentioned last night our increased property taxes and Christmas will be here soon.🙄🙄🙄. Ok. Please let me get through the week. I reminded him that last Thanksgiving was many changes and Christmas  the decorations and cooking  many changes and more this year.