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[Bri369]

Good Morning Preds and Friends! 

[cowboy sam]

Dear preds  and friends

@Drythe @Yahooey @Bri369 @Mj12 

i guess everyone else is still sleeping!

looks kinda overcast this morning so hoping we do get some promised rain today!

lubs ya!

[Yahooey]

dearest friends

pls hold my mom and my family in ur thoughts

she was admitted to the hospital last Tues bc she seemed off and treatments were difficult - we saw her oncologist and urologist that day

she was discharged Friday and came home and I thought i could care for her 

hospice at home - i can't - i failed her

the visiting nurse came yesterday for 2.5 hrs and describe every scenario

there is a box of meds sent along with oxygen and backup oxygen which she might need - so everything is here for what might happen

he showed me all the signs i missed of her pain

i did not know - mom never complains - i only knew she had pain if i position or move her

i administered her first oral morphine yesterday and another this morning

i've been crying - not eating or sleeping

pls pray for us - i rather her go sooner than later

i will have to send her to a nursing home which i was trying to avoid until i couldnt do it anymore - i just thought it was the cleaning and never thought the potential meds i would have to administer and where it gets administered and the after effects and more meds - i will contact the social worker after 9am and start the paperwork

my niece is gonna come this afternoon and stay with me

lubs u awl - and i'm sorry to be such a downer

[Bri369]

@Yahooey 

You didn't fail her and  you're not a downer.  Please do not say that or even think that.

You're caring for her and you're doing the best you can.  You're not a doctor or a nurse.  You're the most loving and caring daughter taking care of her mom. 

I'm so glad you're niece is coming. 

We are here for you and lubs you so much. 

I pray that your mom is peaceful and not in pain. 

[SouthernBee]

@Yahooey : Please understand and know that you have not let your Mother down or failed her. You are the most loving and best caregiver for your precious Mom. Like so many- I am speaking from experience. I was 22 years old when I had to deal with similar circumstances with my precious Mother. You are not and will never be a downer. Preds and friends love you and please come here any time to vent, rant or rave or whatever it takes to give you the strength and courage to deal with whatever. I shared your post with DH. We stopped and said a prayer and will continue to pray for you, your Mother and family.🤗🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[geezerette]

@Yahooey 

I'm new here, not one of the regulars, so I don't know you like everyone else.  But from what I've read about you and your situation, you have not "failed" your mother.  Far from it.

You aren't a medical professional.  Many of us that have gone through similar situations have felt that same shock when we first discover how fragile our parents have really become.  It makes the realization that they aren't going to be with us forever all too real.

But you can only do your best.  Which you have, and no doubt will continue to do, whether your mother stays at home or has to go to a facility.  She doesn't need you to be her nurse--others can fill that role, if necessary.  She needs you to be her daughter and to love and care for her as only daughters can.  That is one job that you do better than anyone else.

I will keep you and your mother in my thoughts and prayers.  ❤️🙏

[loveschocolate]

@Yahooey , I'm so, so sorry. Prayers sent up to you all. You DID NOT fail her. You are the best daughter! Sometimes, we all need help and this is one of those times. Love ❤️ you! 

[Drythe]

@Yahooey 

Dear Friend,

You are a loving, kind, giving daughter.  You have NOT failed your Mother.  She would NEVER want you to push on beyond what your heart can bear.  

You are not experienced in this kind of care, it requires developing the ability to focus on the help / good you are doing, while shielding your heart from the pain of it.  You my friend have not that ability to disassociate your feelings, and how could you with your Mom?

I hope for you and your Mom that the transition is quick.

As she would desire, you must take care of yourself.  

Holding you in the Light, and sending you 🤗 ♥️♥️♥️

Godspeed Mom.

[cowboy sam]

@Yahooey 

 my dear friend(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

and prayers.. you have always been a loving daughter to your mom!

You are so overwelmed right now .. and i agree with you... let the medical people take care of your mom...do   ever you think is is best for your dear mom...and no regrets.

So that "you" can sit beside her and hold her hand , and say everything she needs to hear you say to her.

You know we all lubs ya

[cowboy sam]

@geezerette 

My friend   

you are part of this preds group

and we

Lubs ya!