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[Puzzle Piece]

@Marp It's my opinion and I'm entitled to it.  Yes, the predators are wired differently and I still feel the same as to how to deal with them. 

Now will you and the other poster Crystal Skies comment on the original post and not someone elses Viewpoint. Can you offer a perspective on the OP's dilema?

[mstyrion 1]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

@Marp It's my opinion and I'm entitled to it.  Yes, the predators are wired differently and I still feel the same as to how to deal with them. 

Now will you and the other poster Crystal Skies comment on the original post and not someone elses Viewpoint. Can you offer a perspective on the OP's dilema?

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I think it is fair to comment on statements you made.  

Yes, you are entitled to your opinion and yes, Marp is entitled to comment on your opinion.  

I also find stating that a human being should be "put down" offensive as well.

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[dooBdoo]

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Frosted Cake wrote:

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Annabellethecat wrote:

@Frosted Cake  I am so sorry and totally understand what you are saying.....3 times?  Doesn't make sense, does it?

I like your idea about asking the police to educate everyone on keeping safe.

Recently I was on the internet trying to find the zip code of a friend.  As you all know up pops something that tells me the names addresses, how much they paid for their houses, and on and one.

It also said there are 7 (yes 7) predators that live within a few miles of her.

It is crazy these days.  I don't know but I guess it's only getting worse because obviously with 3 convictions, nothing happens to him.

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Hi Annabellethecat!

It is crazy all what goes on these days.   I'm always careful, but when you know someone like that lives in your area, it just makes it more worrisome.   I don't have a dog and live alone.   I rent, so I can't just put up cameras, etc., without the owner allowing it.  

I just wonder on the two times previous where he violated his probation, did they inform neighbors of his actions?   If they did, it didn't stop him from doing it again.   We have a park right across the street, a wash area where joggers jog and walkers walk daily, it's just such an uncomfortable feeling.   I'm just glad I know where he lives.  I would hate it if were just "an area" they told you about.   

I can't really believe that he is harmless now.   Once someone continuously commits such horrific acts, it's in their blood.  

I am beginning to believe that there aren't any "nice" neighborhoods anywhere anymore.   

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        @Frosted Cake, I agree with others who say that even though it's more than disturbing to get a notice like this, or to review the various websites listing offenders' locations and other criminal activities, society has always had people who do bad things to others.  Not just "these days."   (I think there's an old saying about the "devil you know and the devil you don't know," and there are criminals out there whether we know their identities or not.)   That's why it's always good to be aware, prepared, and take precautions but also to try not to be overly worried to the point of allowing it to ruin our quality of life.  Worry can be a motivator if it prompts us to research, investigate, and take positive steps...  beyond that, it can be a fruitless drain on our well-being in my experience.

         Even though you rent, there are many options for security devices you can use.  When I rented, I talked with the owner/managers and then used devices with their approval -- you might want to consider this, if it would help put your mind at ease.  I hope you find some good options workable for you.

[dex]

@dooBdoo I agree that if you have been warned then you can take precautions.I bet if something bad happened to anyone's family members...thoughts wouldn't be sympathetic towards the perpetrators.it is nice to be forgiving but there are those that will never deserve it.

[Isobel Archer]

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@Frosted Cake wrote:

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@Annabellethecat66 wrote:

@Frosted Cake  I am so sorry and totally understand what you are saying.....3 times?  Doesn't make sense, does it?

I like your idea about asking the police to educate everyone on keeping safe.

Recently I was on the internet trying to find the zip code of a friend.  As you all know up pops something that tells me the names addresses, how much they paid for their houses, and on and one.

It also said there are 7 (yes 7) predators that live within a few miles of her.

It is crazy these days.  I don't know but I guess it's only getting worse because obviously with 3 convictions, nothing happens to him.

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Hi Annabellethecat!

It is crazy all what goes on these days.   I'm always careful, but when you know someone like that lives in your area, it just makes it more worrisome.   I don't have a dog and live alone.   I rent, so I can't just put up cameras, etc., without the owner allowing it.  

I just wonder on the two times previous where he violated his probation, did they inform neighbors of his actions?   If they did, it didn't stop him from doing it again.   We have a park right across the street, a wash area where joggers jog and walkers walk daily, it's just such an uncomfortable feeling.   I'm just glad I know where he lives.  I would hate it if were just "an area" they told you about.   

I can't really believe that he is harmless now.   Once someone continuously commits such horrific acts, it's in their blood.  

I am beginning to believe that there aren't any "nice" neighborhoods anywhere anymore.   

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It's not about "these days."  It has always gone on.

What is different about these days is that they are easier to identify, to be on guard against.

In this area, neighbors often band together to demand the pervert be moved elsewhere, and it usually works.  They usually end up living in a sleazy motel or a halfway house for offenders.  

You might consider that approach.

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"Be moved" by whom?  The police?  By what authority?  Sounds frighteningly like some vigilante justice.  This has happened in your neighborhood "often?"  Wow.

[fortune]

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@Plaid Pants2 wrote:

Don't live in fear!  Constantly worrying about it isn't going to do you any good.

I have taken several self defense classes. My body is my weapon. I don't have to worry about a can being wrestled away from me, used against me, or if the wind is blowing in the right direction to make sure that it gets him and not me.

I highly, highly, HIGHLY recommend that ALL women take a self defense class. ALL women can learn to defend themselves, from the smallest and most petite, to everyone else, without feeling that you have to depend on an item that can be taken away from you and used against you.

The class will give you confidence that you can protect yourself, without feeling that you need to depend on a can/canister.  

Learn to use your voice. Don't scream. People tend to close their doors, if they hear a woman scream. Instead, learn to yell, "FIRE!!!", as that will bring people out.

Learn to walk with a "Don't ****  with me!" attitude. Walk around like you are not afraid to kick ***  and take names. 

I can't recommend self defense classes highly enough. Not only do you learn how to protect yourself, but they are fun, and it's great exercise.

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Yell "Naked Woman!" and that will bring out all the men!!!

[Marp]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

@Marp It's my opinion and I'm entitled to it.  Yes, the predators are wired differently and I still feel the same as to how to deal with them. 

Now will you and the other poster Crystal Skies comment on the original post and not someone elses Viewpoint. Can you offer a perspective on the OP's dilema?

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Yes, it is your opinion, you are entitled to it and I did not comment on your opinion.  I merely asked you a question.

I will choose for myself which posts I will comment on.

Yes, I can offer a perspective on the OP's dilemma.

[dooBdoo]

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Whatnow wrote:

@dooBdoo I agree that if you have been warned then you can take precautions.I bet if something bad happened to anyone's family members...thoughts wouldn't be sympathetic towards the perpetrators.it is nice to be forgiving but there are those that will never deserve it.

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        @dex, I'm not sure why you posted that comment to me, since I didn't say anything about being sympathetic toward perpetrators -- perhaps you meant it as a general comment?   In my case, my loved ones have been harmed and even murdered...  and while I do believe in forgiveness (which in my opinion isn't given because the other person deserves it -- forgiveness benefits the forgiver who otherwise might be forever burdened and sickened by holding resentment), it's very hard in those crimes in my personal life as well as all the crime toward anyone whether I know them or not.  It's complicated, it's hard.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@Vickiv wrote:

 It is such a shame. You live in a decent neighborhood go to work try to be a good person now you have someone like this near you you've got to keep your doors locked, take pepper spray if you walk, putting up security cameras, spend money on a security system and do everything else to make you feel safe in and around your home. While you're at it you might want to get four  dogs to bark and act like they're going to tear someone apart.  What a world I guess this is what you call the new normal. I know if I was in your situation I would be worried that I'd probably do all the above. It's not fair that you have to change your lifestyle for someone who doesn't care about nothing or nobody.

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@Vickiv

Well. OTOH, people that have paid their debt to society can move pretty much wherever they want.  You bought a home in a decent area .... NOT a gated community or a private island.     

[dex]

@dooBdoo I meant my comment to be general.I am sorry to hear that your family has experienced so much violence.I admire your ability to forgive.I am just not as kind and generous as you.You are a special person.