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[Boomernichols]

@JeanLouiseFinch A funeral director can help you from the service, casket, flowers, whatever your heart desires.    My mother had their grave lots bought, monument set up and wishes were known.  It is a relief for your family that they do not have to shoulder the heartbreak and decisions in such a trying time.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

Much thanks to all who replied. 

[SurferWife]

I've told my husband if I die first just cremate me and toss my ashes in the ocean.  Don't spend any money on a memorial or anything.  It's not necessary.  I'll be at home with my Lord and that is what matters.

[Teddixat]

I preplsmned mine and it all taken care of in my Will and Trust.  Cremation - they will do the rest.  I don't want my ashes spread around.  My nephew is my Executor and he knows that he doesn't have to do anything other I have directed which is cremation, period!!

[homedecor1]

It's the best thing (and $ spent).  We had all our arrangements prepaid and updated.

When spouse passed recently the whole process was flawless -- no surprises in fees, arrangements, etc.

Im glad we did it!

[CalminHeart]

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@Alsace Gal wrote:

@CalminHeart 

I am truly sorry for the loss of you dear brother.I lost my dear twin sister in June and every day  is a struggle for me. I'm crying as I write this. I know the pain you feel.

😢❤️❤️❤️

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I teared up reading your post. I'll be thinking of you. 

[monti3]

My mother had everything set up.  Everything went well, and because my brothers and I are close all the stuff later went smooth as silk.

I am going to be doing this. The info I have from a phone call:

Cremation- the policy travels with you if you move

You can make "payments" but that ends up costing extra - but they will pay off the remainder if you pass - this actually did happen to a relative.

I only want a cremation- nothing else- nothing but an obit.   I worked hard and I don't want $ going to a funeral home, I want my kids to have something.

I am leaving the "urn" thing up to them- it doesn't matter to me and I don't want to burden them with hauling around an urn if it's not their wish.

Cost here in MN quoted as $3,200.00-  

I figure with the $ losing it's value it's a wise decision.

I hope this helps someone.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

To those who have shared about their losses, please accept my condolences and apology if this conversation has stirred up your grief again.

[Zwervend]

I'm not really old enough (under 65) nor do I have any health concerns that would prompt me to pre-arrange my funeral, but I will do so in the next few years. 

My family is well aware of what I want, and I've documented it for them. Should I meet my demise prior to acutally making/paying for those arrangements, they have a clear roadmap of what to do. 

[shoptilyadropagain]

My parents pre-planned and prepaid their funeral expenses as well as purchased cemetery plots and a headstone years ago.  When my dad passed away about 7 years ago, It was so easy to meet with our funeral director and just go over a couple of things.  I was glad my mom didn't have to think a lot about it or make a lot of decisions then.