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[SamBrown]

@Goodie2shoes It sounds like a typical in-patient rehab.  I hope your daughter will realize she needs help and that her way won't work.  

[Goodie2shoes]

@ Linmo wrote: I'll keep her in my prayers. Has she looked into a PHP program? It is not a residential rehab, but patients spend time participating in in-person therapy at a hospital or facility during the day and then return home at night. My daughter had success with it.

Thanks for your prayers. She expressed fear of Hospitals and O/P Rehab due to being in that facility but we have been able to locate a virtual Rehab program where there is mainly people with the same addiction and up to 8 participants. She is scheduled for her initial online assessment. I was also able to find the kind of facility you mentioned, thanks so much. I'm praying the virtual program will be beneficial for her. The return home at night program is the next option.   

[Sunnycorle]

Addict is manipulative and Mom is enabler.  Anything worthwile is alot of work.  

[LTT1]

@Goodie2shoes 

I will read more of the replies, but I just want you to know that I will be praying for your daughter🩷

[Goodie2shoes]

@ Etoile308 wrote:

But I will say this, and you may not like what I post. I would be surprised if she wasn't made aware going in that her possessions would be taken, and she wouldn't be permitted outside contact, usually for a week and then very limited. I may be mistaken, but I think it sounds like she was looking for reasons not to want to be there.

I'm sure her therapist was following HIPPA guidelines and was limited in what could be said to you.

Thanks for your post, I appreciate your concerns and prayers.  I was on the phone with my daughter, her husband and the salesperson when they discussed her going into the facility. The salesperson told them that basically this was a retreat and no mention of her belongings being taken away. I was skeptical about it and told her I was not excited about her going there but my daughter and her husband noted it sounded like something she would benefit from. I'm aware of what alcholics do, I lost a sister and one of her daughter's from alcohol so it scares me to no end that my daughter is dealing with this disease. She has had anxiety issues since a little girl.  The therapist told me she saw my daughter one time then she was off work for several days. We called the facility numerous times to get a update on her and left several messages with no call back from anyone just to find out how she was doing. I think we were entitled to know if our loved one was ok. She was able to get a phone only while she was in the hospital for elevated blood pressure to call and let me know what was going on. She was Terrified. I am glad she is back home and we will get her through this and I realize she needs to want to get better

[Sassycoco]

@elated
@Linmo

Thank you, for your kind words ❤️ 🙏 😊

I'm doing well ☺️
I want @Goodie2shoes to know , I'm not criticizing her or trying to make her feel worse.
It was extremely difficult to post this on the forum.
I thought, if I could possibly help one person, who is struggling with a mental illness, addiction...whatever they're situation might be...it's worth it !

No one says " oh ,I want to be an alcoholic, a drug addict" .... typically, there's an underlying condition.

I now mentor ,work with people with mental health issues, drug addiction.

I grew up in a very dysfunctional home .

My childhood, still haunts me sometimes!

Addiction, mental illness can effect anyone no matter what ! I've worked with people from all walks of life .
Not feeling shame or judgment were my personal, hardest obstacles. 😪

I do agree with a lot of posters comments about this!
Y'all are wonderful, compassionate people.

I truly hope 🙏 @ Goodie2shoes ,takes some of this advice !

It could possibly help save her daughter!

Reaching out for help ,isn't a sign of weakness....it takes a strong person to ask for help ! Enabling, someone ...isn't helping them ....setting up healthy boundaries is crucial....you have to take care of yourself!
Addiction, effects the whole family! There are so many wonderful support groups and they do help !
From one mother to another, my heart breaks for you ! All you can do ,is put this in God's hands.

I've been praying and will continue to do so!

God bless you and your family 🙏❤️🙏❤️

[Goodie2shoes]

@  Linmo  wrote:

OP just wants prayers, not criticism for her daughter's choices.  We have no way to know what her daughter's experience was at rehab or if her daughter is lying.  

My own experience is that my daughter went to rehab unwillingly, wanted to leave after 2 days, but we convinced her to stay for the month. After she left, she made negative comments about the facility.  She was reusing within a couple of days of leaving rehab.

She started a PHP program at a local hospital, found a good therapist and a year later is sober.  I hope that @Goodie2shoes 's daughter will also find her way back.

Thank you so much and I'm so glad your daughter has recovered ! God Bless!  I am fully aware of what can happen and excuses so I don't just take what she says as the truth, I just want her to find her peace and realize she doesn't  need alcohol to be at peace. Covid really caused her anxiety to explode (so to speak).  

[Goodie2shoes]

@  elated :  No she has not tried AA yet but that's something I hadn't thought about as well. As I mentioned in another post she is scheduled for a initial assessment with a therapist so start a virtual program. Thanks for your post

[Goodie2shoes]

@ Sassycoco, Thank you so much for your honesty and prayers! I appreciate your concern. God Bless !  

[Goodie2shoes]

@ beach-mom wrote:

I prayed before, and I will keep praying. I hope this outpatient program is what she needs and what gives her comfort. 

I recently heard about a similar case where drugs were pushed more than the actual counseling. It sounds like that first place was definitely not the right place for her.

But this one will be. We will all pray and that will make a difference. 

Thank you so much !!  Yes they gave her alot of pills to take and she was scared not knowing what they were giving her. When she got back home all she wanted to do was sleep and was having nightmares.