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[kittymomNC]

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newziesuzie wrote:


Smaug and Kittymom you're both posters I've learned from
and you have a lot to contribute so this isnt a bash but imho it sounds
like you could take this to another thread and maybe work things
out for a truce or something and maybe not take this thread down?

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newsiesuzie, I know you mean well and I truly appreciate that.  However, I didn't start this whole thing to begin with, I simply made a comment related to the topic.  Someone else chose to use my comment for their own agenda and, yes, I defended myself.  

When another poster commented about that exchange, I got upset that it had been brought forward in this thread.  I did not want it to continue. She then apologized to me for how she did it.  That apology and my response was between that poster and me.  I am not responding to anyone else.  I ended the original confrontation in post #24 - I did not resurrect it..  As I said in my post to the person who apologized, that whole thing could have been addressed and done with way back in this thread if the accusing poster had told me how I offended her, but that didn't happen, and now honestly, I don't really care any more.  

I knew I should have avoided this thread entirely, but I didn't.  I will know better in the future. This whole episode has taught me a good lesson... I will not forget it.  I do hope you have a good evening.  

[SuiGeneris]

I read the first couple of posts, then noticed an inordinate number of "hearts" on this thread.

If there was a contest for "Most Hearted Thread," this one would win, I think.

With 59 posts and 178 hearts, that's an average of 3 hearts per post!

Wow! 

[Now, going back to read the rest of the thread.  Should I get my popcorn? ]

[FlowershopGirl]

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@PamfromCT wrote:
Hi FlowershopGirl, I do hope you will get a Maine Coon. It's said they are cats who act like dogs. Not the slightest bit aloof, and ours greets us at the door when we're out and return home. Lily tends to follow us around the house. She is loving and affectionate. Just prepare to deal with a kitty with long hair and very sharp claws in their big mitts. She also loves water, and will plunk herself down by her big water bowl, dip her paws in the water, and clean her "fur bib" with the water. She is such a joy, and we have created one very spoiled puddycat.

I have some feelers out to my rescue friends when they find a MC kitty to contact me.  My friend in CA has a rescue and she has a lot of contacts.

 My late girl also loved water.  She used to play in my pool back a few years ago.  I don't mind long hair, but I know my MIL told me that they tend to get knots in their hair so she said its a must to make sure they like to be combed so the knots don't develop. 

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[Say Nay]

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@Wayne-QVC wrote:
This post has been removed by QVC because it's not productive dialogue. Please refrain from any Combative or disrespectful dialogue.

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Isn't this something you should keep private? Between yourself and the poster who wrote it? Doesn't your statment attract attention to what happened and cause more speculation and even suspicion than simply removing the post and discussing it with the person away from everyone's prying eyes?

[PamfromCT]

Good morning to all!

To KittymomNC, Sorry you've had to be dragged into Accusation Alley. You are a good person, and you do speak with an honest and kind heart. My very best to you!

To FlowershopGirl, Best of luck in finding the kitty right for you. My sister-in-law was instrumental in arranging for Lily's adoption. She knew a breeder who was retiring Lily from breeding and shows at a young age, so the rest is history. As far as kitty grooming, we made the decision early on we could not handle it ourselves. Clipping her nails was a big issue - hard to clearly see the nails in the big mitts and fur. We brought Lily to PETCO a few times for grooming, but then we found a lovely lady who comes to your home and grooms Her Ladyship for the same price. Every 4 to 5 weeks. Well worth it.
As I type, Lily is sleeping in a kitty bed, so tired from an exhausting breakfast. Best of luck in your search!

[newziesuzie]

MaizeanBlue said:

"I never saw this board as the conflict-driven place others see. I just saw differences of opinion and high spirits. I guess it depends on each poster's personality--what they see. What do you think?"


I see it as conflict driven and I had hoped it would be better with the new boards and maybe old grudges were left to die off but I was naive and mistaken. Seems people can't have differences of opinion without getting personal and then no wonder we have to be so heavily watched and moderated we did it to ourselves imho.

[LucyGoose]

Wow, I don't think I like this strict moderation..... your dialouge was not productive, so it was removed??!!

[Irshgrl31201]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

K, you are probably right but I didn't know how else to show what happens in threads with good discussions that deteriate into personal arguments. Some posters are continually playing the victim, whining, and nothing, no apology,  will pacify them.

I meant no offence to you. I don't blame you for falling Into the trap.

I'm so sorry, I just noticed that I quoted the post I meant but also your response which I hadn't meant to quote. 

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Occasional Rain, I just wanted to comment not necessarily to this post but other posts you have made on this thread. I really agree with you. I have noticed on here that a lot of your posts have not been in the popular line of thinking and you are often called "cold hearted", "mean", heartless" etc... for simply expressing your opinion. I do not think I have ever witnessed you saying it in a manner that has been rude or considered name calling. You simply express your opinion. The particular threads I have noticed it on have been legal threads like the Casy Anthony threads. You believed there was not enough evidence and stated that in a simple manner by using facts of the case. I would see responses to you that were down right rude and obvious personal attacks for your opinion and you never came back with immature or rude response. You, as a poster, have stated HERE ON THIS THREAD what you I have always seen you do on other threads. Many times you could have been insulted and could have struck back with personal insults of your own but you haven't. YOU STOPPED THE NASTINESS THERE BY NOT RESPONDING WHICH IS WHAT YOU'RE SAYING HERE. Had you responded to other poster the way you had been insulted you would have magnified it, you simply ignored them and that let a lot of arguments die. I do agree with you that we are adults and while I don't mind a moderater coming in and pooofing posts that are racist or down right hateful with nasty cuss words, I think some of the moderating lately has been very juvenile. It is definitely their board and they are free to moderate exactly how they see fit but IMO it is a bit overboard. I do understand that everyone has a different level of sensitivity but there are times when I wonder how some of these posters handle the real world if some of these posts are so debilitatingly hurtful. Instead of stopping and not feeding into it, realizing that only intensifies it, they do everything to exacerbate it, even unknowingly. I definitely don't mean to put other posters down for being more sensitive than I because I do realize that I am not particularly sensitive or hurt by mean posts made on an anonymous chat room board or in real life. Like you said, it doesn't reflect on me if the other person is rude, crass or insulting, it reflect on them. I do have to say OR, while I don't always agree with your posts or even opinions, I do admire the way you have handled yourself on here when your opinions have been less than popular. You have never responded in some of the very mean ways you have been responded to. From what I have seen, you have been treated much more unfairly and rudely than anyone on this thread who is complaining about being treated rudely has been. Even after some of the things that have been said about you, you have never hit the poof button repeatedly to have someone poof the thread because you didn't like what was being said about you. You really talk the talk and walk the walk.

I just wanted to say that to you. I certainly didn't mean to insult others by saying that to you either.