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[CAcableGirl2]

@gidgetgh   Sending my prayers for your husband, his doctors and for you to get some answers.

Reactions to different medicines can be very difficult to figure it out, but it sounds like he is getting good care and hopefully you will get some answers today and he will be doing much better when you are able to see him. 

Please remember to take care of yourself too.  

[faeriemoon]

[CelticCrafter]

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@gidgetgh wrote:

I debated whether to post this, but I've been posting here a long, long time and I'm usually pretty open.  And most of you are aware that my husband has been ill with Parkinson's and mildish dementia. He also has a few other issues. 

Well,  my husband is very ill.  He is in the hospital.  In the middle of a pandemic. And I had to walk away from him in the emergency room early Tuesday afternoon. And that right there just about killed me. I don't want to hear stories about being upset that one can't get their hair cut, or go on "vacay" or get a "mani/pedi" (I am so not a fan of slang). Try walking away from a sick, scared confused spouse.  I think that rule is intentionally cruel. 

Anyway,  I could go on about the details for days, but he started a new medicine Friday morning. He took it for 3 days. On Sunday, I began to suspect that he wasn't right. But we got through the day.  We got absolutely no sleep Sunday night. None. 

On Monday, he seemed better but I did not give him the medicine (which was totally ok). Monday night was a horror. He was very agitated, couldn't sleep, had bathroom difficulties.  I checked his blood pressure and it was very high. So I called 911 and they came and checked it and it was fine.

Then, suspecting a UTI, I called his doctor in the middle of the night and asked if it would be ok to give him an antibiotic that I had on hand.  She said yes, so I started him on that. Absolutely no sleep again. 

I took him to the ER very early Tuesday morning.  I sat in my car in the parking lot while they examined him.  I won't go into all the details, but after 3 hours we went home.  They said no UTI.

We got home and he immediately had problems, he was bleeding, and I called the ER and we went immediately back.  This time, they brought me into a little room with him.  2 nurses, the doctor and the care manager or something like that.  I completely broke down. Anyway, they admitted him.

Since then, he has become increasingly worse.  Completely altered, you can't understand what he's saying.  So they are still trying to determine if this is ALL from a reaction to the medication (which should be just about totally out of his system by now. I had been told 4-5 days for it to completely leave the body) or if the medication made an unknown underlying problem worse.  

I am scared to death.  Chest x ray was normal.  They did a brain ct scan yesterday but they haven't called me with the results yet. They are giving him IV nutrients only, in case he needs to be operated on, for who knows what. 

The main issue, which got us in there, was with the bladder/urinary tract.  Things just aren't working correctly.

The only glimmer of good news is that the hosptials are relaxing their visitor rules.  Effective tomorrow, one visitor can go in.  Why in Gods name they have to wait two days after announcing it yesterday is beyond me but I  should be able to get in there tomorrow.

In the middle of a pandemic.  

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I agree, especially since you live together.

I hope you get better news today.

[kitty60]

So sorry you are going through this at this time.  Glad to hear you may be able to get in to see him shortly.  I have a dear friend going through a similar situation, it took one week for a dr to finally return her calls.  Our hospital has yet to allow visitors.  Just take one day at a time and prayers will be going your way. 

[Nbo]

I am so sorry for what you and your dear husband are going through. I am sure since he has mild dementia being away from you makes him very upset. I wish hospital would keep in mind that people with dementia need their family at their side. I hope that he gets better soon and that he feels better now that you will be able to visit him. I will pray for a quick recovery for him.

[walker]

I am very sorry to hear about your situation with husband's illness and hospitalization.  I think a spouse should be allowed in and hope it happens for you soon!!!    You are right that many of us whimper about our daily inconveniences, but it is nothing compared to a serious health situation as this.   I hope the coming days will be better for your husband and he can return home with you.  

[Venezia]

@gidgetgh - Of course you should post here; you're among friends.

I'm so sorry to hear the news about your husband and I know how distressing it is for you, especially when there are no answers.  I have a close friend who is going through something very similar with her elderly father (not identical, but sounds so much the same), who is in and out of hospital almost every other day, having tests but finding "nothing wrong", and I know the effect that's having on her.

I'll add my prayers to the others for you and DH and send positive healing thoughts to both of you.  Please try to take care of yourself and let us know what's happening, when you can.  

[4kitties]

@gidgetgh 

I am so sorry.  I cannot imagine how difficult it is for you both.

I will be praying for you and Mr. Gidget.   

[AngelPuppy1]

@gidgetgh 

How terrible for you!  I am so, so sorry.  Nothing worse than having your partner being so horribly ill and you feel you can't help them.  Please post whenever you are able and let us know how he, and you, are doing.  I am thinking all good and positive thoughts for you both.  Blessings!

[haddon9]

@gidgetgh   My heart goes out to you.  I'm so sorry what you are going through and I understand the fear and intense worry. My prayers are with you and your  husband. Hope things make a turn for the better very soon.

I'm glad that you'll at least be able to go in to see him.