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[Nancy Drew]

Things do happen. Once a poster who does post often posted a picture of her dog here. She posted the very same pic on a QVC Facebook page so I learned her name and non private Facebook page all her info. I was curious but I have and never reveal anything.

[Moonchilde]

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@Nicknack wrote:

I think my sister posts way too much on Facebook.  She has at least 500 Facebook friends.  She posts pictures telling exactly when the family is taking their vacations.  They post while they're at the beach, where they're going to dinner that night, what they'll be doing the next day, just everything.  It wouldn't be hard to find them as they give lots of details about where they'll be staying.

I keep telling her she should take the pictures but not post them until she gets back.  She's telling all 500 "friends" who might tell more friends that they will be out of town all week. I don't feel comfortable with that, but she seems to think it's okay since she knows all of her Facebook friends and has her privacy settings correctly.  I thought anybody could read your facebook page though.  Is that not true?  I don't know how to convince her this isn't a good idea.

No - your FB is as private as you choose to make it.  It can be set to Friends only and can even be set so that Friends of your Friends cannot see your posts, photos, etc.  If she knows what she's doing and has FB properly configured, no one but her (FB) Friends can see her posts or photos. One of them would have to tell a stranger here whereabouts or pass photod of her kids around in order for her privacy to be breached.

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[NickNack]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@Nicknack wrote:

I think my sister posts way too much on Facebook.  She has at least 500 Facebook friends.  She posts pictures telling exactly when the family is taking their vacations.  They post while they're at the beach, where they're going to dinner that night, what they'll be doing the next day, just everything.  It wouldn't be hard to find them as they give lots of details about where they'll be staying.

I keep telling her she should take the pictures but not post them until she gets back.  She's telling all 500 "friends" who might tell more friends that they will be out of town all week. I don't feel comfortable with that, but she seems to think it's okay since she knows all of her Facebook friends and has her privacy settings correctly.  I thought anybody could read your facebook page though.  Is that not true?  I don't know how to convince her this isn't a good idea.

No - your FB is as private as you choose to make it.  It can be set to Friends only and can even be set so that Friends of your Friends cannot see your posts, photos, etc.  If she knows what she's doing and has FB properly configured, no one but her (FB) Friends can see her posts or photos. One of them would have to tell a stranger here whereabouts or pass photod of her kids around in order for her privacy to be breached.

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@Moonchilde My concern is that she has at least 500 Facebook friends--maybe more.  They can't all be that close to her.  I hope she has her privacy settings set correctly.  I ought to ask her to let me look at them and double check.  She may actually know all those people, but just not well.

[Moonchilde]

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@Nicknack wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@Nicknack wrote:

I think my sister posts way too much on Facebook.  She has at least 500 Facebook friends.  She posts pictures telling exactly when the family is taking their vacations.  They post while they're at the beach, where they're going to dinner that night, what they'll be doing the next day, just everything.  It wouldn't be hard to find them as they give lots of details about where they'll be staying.

I keep telling her she should take the pictures but not post them until she gets back.  She's telling all 500 "friends" who might tell more friends that they will be out of town all week. I don't feel comfortable with that, but she seems to think it's okay since she knows all of her Facebook friends and has her privacy settings correctly.  I thought anybody could read your facebook page though.  Is that not true?  I don't know how to convince her this isn't a good idea.

No - your FB is as private as you choose to make it.  It can be set to Friends only and can even be set so that Friends of your Friends cannot see your posts, photos, etc.  If she knows what she's doing and has FB properly configured, no one but her (FB) Friends can see her posts or photos. One of them would have to tell a stranger here whereabouts or pass photod of her kids around in order for her privacy to be breached.

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@Moonchilde My concern is that she has at least 500 Facebook friends--maybe more.  They can't all be that close to her.  I hope she has her privacy settings set correctly.  I ought to ask her to let me look at them and double check.  She may actually know all those people, but just not well.

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That is a different issue, and as far as children are concerned, I share your concern. But people do what they do :-( I don't think others can convince them

 BUT - one can have different *groups* of friends, and all friends won't see every post. Example - close friends and family are in Group A and business associates & online friends are in Group B. If she posts family info only to Group A, Group B will not see them. But that is up to her to set up.

[nun ya]

I'm always amazed at how much people remember here.I can't remember what I did a week ago.  It used to be much worse especially when people thought posters were lying. So, yes, people will find out who you are if you post enough details and they are crazy enough to look it up too.

[VanSleepy]

It took me about 10 seconds once to find a poster's name and her family member's name and address.  Now some may think it's creepy that I even looked, but it was a thread like this that prompted it, and I wanted to see if it really was so easy.  I certainly wouldn't divulge or do anything with the information.

[dooBdoo]

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@Nicknack wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@Nicknack wrote:

I think my sister posts way too much on Facebook.  She has at least 500 Facebook friends.  She posts pictures telling exactly when the family is taking their vacations.  They post while they're at the beach, where they're going to dinner that night, what they'll be doing the next day, just everything.  It wouldn't be hard to find them as they give lots of details about where they'll be staying.

I keep telling her she should take the pictures but not post them until she gets back.  She's telling all 500 "friends" who might tell more friends that they will be out of town all week. I don't feel comfortable with that, but she seems to think it's okay since she knows all of her Facebook friends and has her privacy settings correctly.  I thought anybody could read your facebook page though.  Is that not true?  I don't know how to convince her this isn't a good idea.

No - your FB is as private as you choose to make it.  It can be set to Friends only and can even be set so that Friends of your Friends cannot see your posts, photos, etc.  If she knows what she's doing and has FB properly configured, no one but her (FB) Friends can see her posts or photos. One of them would have to tell a stranger here whereabouts or pass photod of her kids around in order for her privacy to be breached.

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@Moonchilde My concern is that she has at least 500 Facebook friends--maybe more.  They can't all be that close to her.  I hope she has her privacy settings set correctly.  I ought to ask her to let me look at them and double check.  She may actually know all those people, but just not well.

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        @NickNack, I remember at least one article I read about these "just rob me" posts told of someone's "friends" on Facebook being the ones who saw the updates, knew the person was away from their home, and robbed them.   In my opinion, when the friends list starts going up to such large numbers, it's nearly impossible to say for certain that everyone is completely trustworthy.  

        This "just-rob-me" practice on social media is also affecting liability with insurance claims, so if people don't care about safety or the security of their valuables they might at least pay attention to that.

[dooBdoo]

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Moonchilde wrote:

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NickNack wrote:

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Moonchilde wrote:

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No - your FB is as private as you choose to make it.  It can be set to Friends only and can even be set so that Friends of your Friends cannot see your posts, photos, etc.  If she knows what she's doing and has FB properly configured, no one but her (FB) Friends can see her posts or photos. One of them would have to tell a stranger here whereabouts or pass photod of her kids around in order for her privacy to be breached.

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@Moonchilde My concern is that she has at least 500 Facebook friends--maybe more.  They can't all be that close to her.  I hope she has her privacy settings set correctly.  I ought to ask her to let me look at them and double check.  She may actually know all those people, but just not well.

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That is a different issue, and as far as children are concerned, I share your concern. But people do what they do :-( I don't think others can convince them

 BUT - one can have different *groups* of friends, and all friends won't see every post. Example - close friends and family are in Group A and business associates & online friends are in Group B. If she posts family info only to Group A, Group B will not see them. But that is up to her to set up.

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        Now that the privacy settings have changed, it's more difficult to restrict who sees your posts.    In the settings (under "who can see my stuff?"), we can choose one default, but then we can change the "audience" each time we add a post if we want to.   I really doubt that  this person is modifying the audience for each post that might indicate they're out of town, etc.

[nun ya]

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@VanSleepy wrote:

It took me about 10 seconds once to find a poster's name and her family member's name and address.  Now some may think it's creepy that I even looked, but it was a thread like this that prompted it, and I wanted to see if it really was so easy.  I certainly wouldn't divulge or do anything with the information.

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well that's the difference, you kept that info to yourself. Some used to publish that here or email that info to many people.

[september]

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@Burnsite wrote:

Y  If everyone stops mentioning anything personal the BBs will be quite dull, imo.  We respond to persons--to personal stories. 

Otherwise the whole forum will be those news feeds that everyone reads anyway--who died, who is accused, etc.

I read the BBs to hear about other people's stories and I don't think most people say too much.  Maybe once in a while about their illnesses, but that is understandable too.

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That's not always the case.  I've seen many people post about where they work, and the general area where they live.  If I wanted to determine who they were....I'm sure it would be easy.

Other posters post their own first names, or names of their children and grandchildren.  One long time poster has posted hundreds of photos of her grandchildren on this board....with background identifying info, that I'm sure some posters would recognize.  I don't live in that part of the country, so it meant nothing to me.  But it was definitely TMI.  And other posters encouraged it.