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[chickenbutt]

On 2/13/2015 kittymomNC said:

CB, I've read a lot of your posts about your growing up, and I'm truly sorry that it wasn't better for you. All children should be able to feel safe. And adults too, for that matter.

Without going into the reasons, I think I know alittle bitabout how you feel, although I never actually feltunsafegrowing up or had horrible things happen to me. I was trying to find if there is a difference between feelingsafeand feelingsecure, but there's not much. Maybe my word isuncertain, orunsure... as being in a state of uncertainty about things in your life and whether certain people were going to be there for you when you needed them. Not sure if that makes any sense, but sometimes I still have some strong feelings about that. My Mom was the most stable, caring, wonderful person I've ever known, and she was like the glue that always held everything and everyone together when, without her, they just might have fallen totally apart. But I lost her in 1985 when she was barely 67, and nothing has been the same since. (I hope you don't mind that I mentioned my Mom.)

Like you said, I don't judge anyone because I haven't walked in their shoes, and I don't expect anyone to judge me. No one can truly know what is going on in someone else's head. But I sure do see some judgmental people on the forums sometimes.

ETA: I just read something on another thread that makes me wonder how people who are so judgmental, rude, snarky, sarcastic, and show so little sympathy for others, can be so totally blind to their own shortcomings that they feel compelled to accuse other posters of doing what they do themselves.

(bolded by me) I know EXACTLY what post to which you refer. I saw that thread, and what that poster said and just had to shake my head and bite my tongue/typing fingers. ha! Best left to its own merits but - YIKES!