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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

I don't like it either and think we all have the right to say no... On the other hand, depending on what time she wanted to go out after calling at 11, not sure it's really 'spur of the moment'. Either way, I would probably not like it and would most likely find a reason not to go.


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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

When I was working near downtown Atlanta, a friend called to invite me meet them at a movie theater less than 2 minutes after I walked in the door? Not only had I just driven 32 miles, but I had passed by the very place they were talking about. If he'd stopped by my work or called, fine. Driving another 30 miles, not so much. I, too, really do love those days when I stay home.
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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

On 12/28/2014 chrystaltree said: Excluding my sister, I can't recall ever receiving a last minute invitation like that. People just don't do things like that, people with good manners anyway. It would not have bothered me at all; I would've told the truth and politely declined. I would have said something like.... .I'm sorry, I can't meet you today on such short notice. Perhaps we can make plans to do something together another time.

chrystaltree,

I like your suggestion on what to say. That is polite and makes a lot of sense.

Thanks for the comments.

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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

That's the beauty of answering machines. You can listen to the message and then completely ignore it!

Yes, I've had someone I've known for years come into town, call me from a store and leave a message that she'll be in that store for about an hour. She wanted me to drop everything and drive the 5 miles, immediately. I didn't do it......

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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

I think what troubled me most were the 6 calls to my voice mail. I mean, in 90 min? Obviously, I wasn't there to respond or reply. To keep calling was obnoxious as far as I'm concerned, especially the 4 times she just called and hung up. I think people forget that there is caller ID.

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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

I like to know in advance, but it also depends on who the person is, if I can rearrange my day etc.
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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

On 12/28/2014 DARING GREATLY said:

I think what troubled me most were the 6 calls to my voice mail. I mean, in 90 min? Obviously, I wasn't there to respond or reply. To keep calling was obnoxious as far as I'm concerned, especially the 4 times she just called and hung up. I think people forget that there is caller ID.

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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

I have a friend who does this all the time...I am much like you...like to plan a lunch date or any other day out. I will go...just like more notice. She comes from another town and when she arrives...then she calls and says lets do lunch and I say when and she says right now.

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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

My guess is she had other plans that fell through by the number of times she called. If I already had my day planned out and was looking forward to it, I would have said no. I'm sorry I'm busy, wish you would have called yesterday. I probably would have felt a tiny bit guilty, but I'm over doing things I don't want to do to make others happy.
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Re: People Who Call at Last Minute to Invite You Out

I am a spur of the moment type of person. Up for pretty much anything on a moment's notice.

That said, I got tired of last minute invites when my married friends suddenly found themselves alone because their spouse was working late or decided to golf that day. I was getting to be a convenient friend more than a friend so I no longer accept these offers.