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[BoopOMatic]

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This morning DD said, "I forgot to tell you that Peggy (the town's worst busybody) ambushed me at the post office yesterday. She asked how you were and asked if you had "found someone and were dating yet."

"Yes she's dating a 25-year-old male stripper! Don't tell anybody, now........"

[ECBG]

@CrazyKittyLvr2 

Good comeback from your daughter.  Quick thinking and she hit the mark spot on!!!

[lgfan]

@CrazyKittyLvr2 "DD said, "Well, Peggy, I don't poke my nose in other people's business and that includes my Mother" and I walked away. She is a pill.  One would think her husband, adlut kids and the gaggle of grandkids that are always with her would keep her occupied."

I thought that it was a great response.  It was not rude at all.  You cannot be subtle with busybodies like Peggy.  You have to be upfront otherwise they will keep bothering you with their intrusive questions.  If Peggy were truly concerned about your mother she would just simply ask how she is instead of asking about dating status.

[Porcelain]

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@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:

@Sooner  There are things going on in the world a million times more important to worry about. BTW,  I'm not worried about Peggy, it's just a topic.

However, the important things are not allowed for discussion here.

Everything gets talked about in Community Chat, spouses, co-workers, children, best friends and neighbors. Sometimes it's good stuff, sometimes complaints.

I said she is nosy and asks intrusive questions.  I never said she cheats, beats her kids etc.  She doesn't.  Even after decades of her questions she makes me shake my head sometimes.  Geesh.

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Just had a thought. Is she from another country/culture? First or second generation? In some places and cultures extremely personal questions are considered normal and perfectly acceptable.

[Mominohio]

I think that many people don't really mean to be or are actually nosey, but concerned and/or making conversation. Others are just looking for something to gossip about. I guess you have to weigh each situation as it comes, and consider the individual. 

We can't have it both ways. Wall ourselves off, be all private, but then hope that others care/ask about us. I try not to take everything someone says or asks personally, or look for ways to be offended. It really is all about the person, and knowing them, to know which way it is coming from them. 

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

@Porcelain  She was born and raised here in Hooterville for most of her life.  Left for a few years and moved back.

I vaguely remember her Mom and Dad from when I moved here 53 years ago.  Very nice people.

I have grown to dislike small towns.  When I move from here I want to go where your neighbors ignore you. Wave if you see each other outside but everyone goes about their own business otherwise.

[chickenbutt]

Is the town really named Hooterville?     Sorry if it's uncool to ask and you certainly don't have to answer.    I was just really curious because it gave me a chuckle.

I've lived in small towns, too, and yeah it always became tedious having people who felt the need to mind everybody else's business. 

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

@chickenbutt   Sorry, no, that is not the real name. My feeble attempt at humor.

Lest I come off as a total b*itch there are some very nice folks in town. It is just that small town thing where everyone thinks your life is fair game for everyone to speculate on.

I said before you sneeze in the morning and by evening they have you in bed with pneumonia.  I've  learned that when someone says "they say" about someone else 99 times out of 100 the person doesn't know their hiney from a hole in the ground.

[hckynutjohn]

Guess I am somewhat different in this respect. I have met many people while ice skating that I didn't know from the proverbial bale of hay. Many ask me personal questions and I am happy to honestly answer them.

I do have a red line however when it comes to income related questions, and that's about it. Not much is too personal for me not wanting to answer. 

I am happy with the way I have lived most of my life, even proud of a couple of my accomplishments. Like everyone else, there are also some not so good times. Depending on conversational topics, I have no hesitance to talk about them also.

Decided at a young age that I preferred learning life by living it, as opposed to learning about it in classrooms.That is pretty much how most of my life has been lived. I have always lived for the present/never forgetting my past/and never looking very far ahead to the future. 

Now! What dah ya's want ta no?

hckynut  🇺🇸

[dmod nj]

I've navigated this situation in many different  ways. One of my favorite ways is responding this way, "If you forgive me for not answering, I'll forgive you for asking."  I read that response in an Ann Landers column a million years ago.