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[nun ya]

On 10/29/2014 minkbunny said:

People who are looking for a fight don't like passivity.

Poster A, I hate everything you post.

Poster B, Hi, good to see you. Thanks for stopping by my thread.

see, I find that annoying

either ignore or tell them to pound salt

[minkbunny]

Nah, never let 'em get to you.

Ignoring a person gives them power.

[NChgOfMyAttitude]

The best example for me was my friend's husband. She would ask him to do something and he would either not do anything, or do it in a "round-a-bout" way.

The example was she was bugging him about trimming the bushes in front of the house. Took him forever but he finally did it one day she wasn't home. She came home and found ALL the bushes HACKED down to the ground practically. They weren't trimmed, they were destroyed!! To me THAT is passive-aggressive.

[nun ya]

But I'd never thank someone for posting on MY thread. That's silly.

[kittymomNC]

I see posters use this against other posters all the time. Here's Merriam-Webster's definition, which I think is very clear... it seems to be a favorite put-down since I've seen it used quite a bit.

Passive-aggressive behavior is the indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, sarcasm, stubbornness, sullenness, or deliberate or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible.

In psychology, passive-aggressive behavior is characterized by a habitual pattern of passive resistance to expected work requirements, opposition, stubbornness, and negativistic attitudes...

[QueenDanceALot]

On 10/29/2014 dooBdoo said:

On 10/29/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

On 10/29/2014 dooBdoo said:

On 10/29/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

"Well, Bless Her Heart".

I hate seeing that comment become one that people take as sarcasm. Coming from the south, I always used it sincerely. Now if I say it, I always feel I have to add some sort of disclaimer.

Sorry, dooBdoo, I don't have control over the evolving vernacular.

Oh, come on, now, Kitty. I thought you did, and you could help us out here.

I Am Kitty, Hear me Mew!"

[lovescats]

Intentional ineffectiveness, intentional lateness and forgetfulness, resentful silence or irritability

[minkbunny]

On 10/29/2014 nunya said:

But I'd never thank someone for posting on MY thread. That's silly.

Really? I often thank people for responding to something on a thread I start.

But, I truly appreciate you taking the time to comment.

[VanSleepy]

A lot of the signature lines around here are passive aggressive. (I don't mean necessarily on this thread.)

[nun ya]

On 10/29/2014 minkbunny said:

On 10/29/2014 nunya said:

But I'd never thank someone for posting on MY thread. That's silly.

Really? I often thank people for responding to something on a thread I start.

But, I truly appreciate you taking the time to comment.

got me