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[pjoy]

How do you guys like parties? I'm 43 and have never enjoyed them. Just too many people and too much energy for me. However, we have a retirement party this Saturday that we really need to go to. How do you other introverts get through these things? Any good ideas for an early exit? LOL

[Preds]

Mingle, listen, smile, munch, chat a little, leave. Duty done.

[croemer]

I too am shy in large parties. I have learned to find a few women I can connect with by just saying hi and opening a conversation. I admit it hard but I am getting better at it. Maybe walk up say hi...say your name and be a good listener and just ask a few questions about their life.

[croemer]

On 3/12/2014 Predsfan said:

Mingle, listen, smile, munch, chat a little, leave. Duty done.

Or that!

[PurpleBunny]

A couple of drinks before you go - lol!

[kittykatkay]

On 3/12/2014 croemer said:

I too am shy in large parties. I have learned to find a few women I can connect with by just saying hi and opening a conversation. I admit it hard but I am getting better at it. Maybe walk up say hi...say your name and be a good listener and just ask a few questions about their life.

Ain't NO WAY I believe that!

[pjoy]

I KNOW these people. I just hate parties.

[Silver Lotus]

I hate parties! Too loud and noisy. I prefer one on one or at the most just a few friends enjoying one another's company. I also enjoy being alone. I need my alone time to recharge.

[~moxie~]

Just go up to someone and tell them your name and say something complimentary, like love your scarf, or jewelry or color of their top or dress. That will break a lot of ice. They will join in the conversation and you will have made a friend. Keep doing that through the evening and as the evening goes by you will start to feel more comfortable.

I use to be such an introvert that I would not go to my husbands companies parties the first year we married. He made me go and I found a chair in the corner and sat there. A lovely woman came up to me and said I was too pretty to be sitting in the corner. She walked me around and introduced me to several people and after being complimented on my hair and clothing I started to return the favor.

The only think I am shy about now is dancing in pubic. When I was a teenager I had to come straight home and watch my baby brother and sisters while my Mom went to work. I really never learned to dance well, but I am going to start taking lessons soon.

[croemer]

On 3/12/2014 kittykatkay said:

On 3/12/2014 croemer said:

I too am shy in large parties. I have learned to find a few women I can connect with by just saying hi and opening a conversation. I admit it hard but I am getting better at it. Maybe walk up say hi...say your name and be a good listener and just ask a few questions about their life.

Ain't NO WAY I believe that!

I swear its true...ask my DH! I am better though I dread each party because it takes me out of my comfort zone. We went to an Xmas party...and only 1 woman spoke to me...so hey I found a few men and had a good time talking to them. They were much easier to talk with.