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[Clover29]

On 10/15/2014 Goldengate8361 said:

On 10/15/2014 happy housewife said:

As for your objection to him saying he owns a dog or a cat - that is a very common statement. Most people who own pets do know the difference between pets and people - apparently the OP is hazy in that area. Most people also do not allow pets to continue to use their homes as a toilet, and you did not say what else he may have done to rectify the situation first, instead you wrote it in such a way as to create the max amount of drama.

He killed a cat. That's the fact. I was gracious enough to use his words "put to sleep," which is significantly downplaying "drama."

HH hates cats. Her response is not unexpected. Take no notice.

[raven-blackbird]

On 10/15/2014 Goldengate8361 said: On my 4th date with a man---in the course of our conversation, he said that he once "had a cat put to sleep because it kept "pea-ing" on the carpet." I was HORRIFIED!!! I have 5 cats and I think that's the most cruel-hearted thing I've ever heard of...... I don't believe there's any way I can continue dating this guy. I think he must be totally heartless.... Do you agree with me?

I think he's a man............and men look at things differently..........also maybe he took the cat to a vet and found out there was something really wrong with the cat and this was the best decision.................................................raven

[Allegheny]

I have not read all the replies. I can only speak for myself. I could not date this man any longer. What he did offends me to the point that I wouldn't even wish to speak to him again.

[kdgn]

On 10/15/2014 raven-blackbird said:

On 10/15/2014 Goldengate8361 said: On my 4th date with a man---in the course of our conversation, he said that he once "had a cat put to sleep because it kept "pea-ing" on the carpet." I was HORRIFIED!!! I have 5 cats and I think that's the most cruel-hearted thing I've ever heard of...... I don't believe there's any way I can continue dating this guy. I think he must be totally heartless.... Do you agree with me?

I think he's a man............and men look at things differently..........also maybe he took the cat to a vet and found out there was something really wrong with the cat and this was the best decision.................................................raven

Not all men, thank God.

[littleblueparakeet2]

On 10/15/2014 Clover29 said:

On 10/15/2014 Goldengate8361 said:

On 10/15/2014 happy housewife said:

As for your objection to him saying he owns a dog or a cat - that is a very common statement. Most people who own pets do know the difference between pets and people - apparently the OP is hazy in that area. Most people also do not allow pets to continue to use their homes as a toilet, and you did not say what else he may have done to rectify the situation first, instead you wrote it in such a way as to create the max amount of drama.

He killed a cat. That's the fact. I was gracious enough to use his words "put to sleep," which is significantly downplaying "drama."

HH hates cats. Her response is not unexpected. Take no notice.

[kittymomNC]

Goldengate8361, I'm between telling you to make tracks away from this guy, and telling you maybe you ought to stay around just long enough to find out how he treats his dog when he's at home. Does he give it love, play, companionship, or is it just a "thing" to him? Does the dog have the run of the house, a place to play outside, or does he take it for walks? If he goes out for hours or all day, does he leave the dog loose or put it in a crate for hours on end? What quality of life does the dog have?

I know this shouldn't be your responsibility... I just always wonder what happens to animals if someone doesn't look out for their welfare. I guess I'm thinking that if he neglects the dog, he needs to be reported to the ASPCA or a shelter (only if it's a no-kill shelter). You could do it anonymously, and your local ASPCA or other authorities would at least check him out.

[Love my grandkids]

I'd dump him like a bad habit. He's a cold beetard.

[Cakers1]

On 10/15/2014 Goldengate8361 said: On my 4th date with a man---in the course of our conversation, he said that he once "had a cat put to sleep because it kept "pea-ing" on the carpet." I was HORRIFIED!!! I have 5 cats and I think that's the most cruel-hearted thing I've ever heard of...... I don't believe there's any way I can continue dating this guy. I think he must be totally heartless.... Do you agree with me?

Goldengate: Did you pursue the conversation to find out why he did such a thing?

I think you know the answer to your own question - if you feel you cannot continue dating him, then don't.

[CardinalGirl]

I don't even like cats and I'd dump him a heartbeat for putting one to sleep for no good reason. There is only one valid reason to have done such a thing, in my opinion--if the cat had an incurable disease and was suffering with no way to ease it's pain.

As far as saying he "owns" a dog, I think that's just a common figure of speech. Maybe it's not the actual words, but the way he says it that is so bothersome to you?

[beach-mom]

WOW - I would push him out the door as fast as I could and never look back. No matter how charming someone is, if he didn't love animals that would be it for me. (Of course, DH is a huge animal lover!)