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spent2much · ‎03-10-2010

A few years ago I lost my brother, my mother and my best friend - all within a year. That was a tough year. I purposely did not remember the dates of their deaths because I didn't want to relive their deaths year after year.

After that our first son died on Dec. 21, a date which, unfortunately, I remembered... I guess because it was so close to Christmas.

Christmas used to be so much fun - hustle and bustle. Now I hold fast to The One who was born on Christmas, then died for my sin, then rose again to give me victory over death. I have perfect peace.

ETERNITY: your choice... smoking or non smoking!

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

Everyone experiences this time of year differently. I try to be thankful and grateful for the good times of the past years, the memories, and the blessings. We all have experienced loss, sadness, grief, and pain throughout our lives and will continue to do so. Try to focus on the positive and let go of the negative. It is important to take care of yourself.

tarsmom · ‎03-21-2010

I am a very sensitive person and reading your responses made me tear up.

What I do is try to be grateful for the basics:

1. my dad died of esophagus cancer and had a feeding tube the last six months of his life. You know what he wanted? To be able to drink a Coke. He was not allowed to have anything - nothing for that last six months. It was awful. **So, I am grateful I can drink and eat.

2. my beautiful friend and coworker just died from ALS. She was 53. Her husband had to carry her to the bathroom. They were only married 5 years. He was a saint. She couldn't even hold her head up. This tore me up thinking about this beautiful woman who carried herself like a queen. How could this happen to someone who took care of herself, didn't smoke or drink and finally found her wonderful husband. Tears....... ***So, when I have aches and pains and a husband with many health issues, I think to myself, "I can shower and use the bathroom and take a walk with my dog."

3. I underestimated what age 66 would look like. I miss the heck out of my mom. She was so wonderful. Same with my mother-in-law. The holidays will never be the same. I could go down a hole if I allowed myself. **I am grateful my mother and mother-in-law lived until their mid-90's. I know people whose moms died when they were very young.

My only complaint and I have to deal with it is when people always ask (I know....to be polite....) Are you all ready for Christmas? Did you get all your shopping done? What are you doing for Christmas?

You know, life is about seasons. It's a new season now. Things don't stay the same forever. You won't always have your family and friends. Your kids will grow up and maybe move away. Enjoy each season and then move along to the next one.

And be grateful that you can drink a Coke.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

I try not to give in to the sadness I feel this time of year. Really all I have left is a sister and her family but we aren't close. I was in the mall today and Santa waved to me and wished me a Merry Christmas, it did make me smile.

spent2much · ‎03-10-2010

@tarsmom **HUGS** to you! ❤❤❤❤❤

ETERNITY: your choice... smoking or non smoking!

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

I was watching Kelly Clarkson's Christmas special, she sang a song she wrote and mentioned how not everyone is happy around the holidays ( it's alright to feel that way). She mentioned Hard Candy Christmas by Dolly Parton, I wasn't familiar with it and listened, not a good song to listen to if you're already sad. Also I saw a Toyota commercial with a little girl collecting books to give the elderly man for his bookstore with Rainbow by Kacey Musgraves playing in the background, C'MON, what are you doing to me?!

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

I hope everyone who struggles this time of year is doing well. I have to say NYC needs to cancel the Time Square New Years Eve celebration for obvious reasons.

Duckncover · ‎07-16-2021

I am sorry you are having to deal with such loss...the holidays seem to make it harder to remember the best memories of all when you are surrounded with everyone else wrapped up in making new memories. Prayers you feel contentment and comfort and look forward to 2022 with renewed spirit.

Hippiified · ‎03-21-2017

@Jordan2 wrote:
I hope everyone who struggles this time of year is doing well. I have to say NYC needs to cancel the Time Square New Years Eve celebration for obvious reasons.

@Jordan2 I agree!

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

I am so sorry for those of you who are hurting. @spent2much - you said it perfectly.

My mom died right after Thanksgiving years ago. She had already started shopping. I wanted to crawl into bed and pull the covers up, but I had young children who were waiting for Santa Claus. I was actually hosting a neighborhood cookie exchange the night after her funeral. Another neighbor had it and postponed it so I could be there. What got me through was a lot of prayers sent by many.

In this month of December we have lost two good friends. I am sad for their families, and I hope I can be there for them.

I am also praying for the families affected by tornadoes and other disasters, and for the family of the young man who died in the QVC fire.

It might not seem possible now, but all of us will experience the peace and the comfort of this season, maybe in very small ways. I hope all of us get a chance to take a breath and do what we want to do! (((HUGS)))