Older Men Pursuing Much Younger Women - Page 11

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

The man may be just a plain ol stalker. Doesn't matter what the age on him is, he could just be an obsessed stalker.

I still attract men but through the years I've had to be careful that I looked out for my life as some guys can be harmful. Men are attracted to women - young and not so young.

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birddrops · ‎07-16-2010

On 1/30/2015 BlueCollarBabe said:
On 1/30/2015 Joey Heatherton said: Hi Daring Greatly .........you are a youthful 40 and fit, and I'm sure you've been attracting men (and even women) for many years now...........like most attractive women, I bet you know quick and simple ways to signal when you are not interested..........I think with this older gent in question, you just got knocked for a loop cause it never occurred to you he might be interested in a date............stay vigilant but don't change your habits......this guy was deaf dumb and blind and thought a smile and pleasantry from you was a green light..........lacking in social grace is epidemic.......remember this for a next time with ANY age person you are not attracted to...........when asked for a date just smile and say "oh my husband wouldn't like that!".....be breezy but firm...........:-)

Apparently the OP is not 40. Another poster mentioned that in another thread she refers to herself as 53. I took a look and saw one where she says she's in her 50's. She may very well have been flattered at first thinking the old man was just being friendly. But his advances clearly made her uncomfortable. Sometimes it doesn't pay to be kind. All those viagra/cialis ads have those old geezers dreaming of times long past. ${#emotions_dlg.scared}$

The op is not a much younger woman. She just isn't isn't quite as old as the old man. Hilarious! Why lie about your age?

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

You know, just because a guy is old doesn't mean he can't have a secks drive. Same for a woman. I expect and want to have a secks drive when I'm 80.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

This older man is no doubt very lonely and has taken a shine to you. I would have nipped his advances in the bud from the first encounter. If he doesn't leave you alone I would report him to the police for stalking.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

On 1/30/2015 Marienkaefer2 said:
On 1/30/2015 NYC Susan said:
On 1/29/2015 Chalcedony said: Why not just say "Thank you. I'm flattered but not interested." Calling the police is a serious overreaction.

I agree!

He didn't do anything wrong. He was a bit flirty with you, that's all. And then he asked you to dinner. All you had to say was, "No, thank you" or "Sorry, I'm not interested".

He's not following you around, chasing you down dark alleys, or waiting on your doorstep. He's simply friendly when he sees you, and he thinks you're attractive so he asked you out. That's not a crime. And you would have no problem with it if you were interested in him. You're not, and that's fine. But I hardly see a reason to call the police or to over-react.

Men see attractive women and try to get to know them all the time. That's all he was doing. Lots of younger women like older men, so I'm sure he thought it was worth a shot.

Well, he keeps pestering her, and the manner in which he's doing it is unsettling. He's approached her seversl times, once pulling up alongside her in his car while she's walking, and then speeding off. I can see where she would be rattled by it. But, I do agree that she needs to be firm, not only in this case, but in the future. We learn lessons in life, and then we learn to do better next time.

He's not "pestering" her. He speaks to her when they happen to run into each other. And yes, he's interested in her so when he saw her while driving he pulled over and politely asked her to dinner. I don't see anything wrong with that.

He only sped off because she shouted "No!" at him and walked away. I'm not sure what he was supposed to do after being rejected like that, but there was certainly no reason for him to stay and just sit in his car. After being shouted at like that, he probably just wanted to get out of there. Wouldn't it have been more creepy if he hadn't driven off?

IMO it's unfair to label someone creepy rather than simply let him know early on that she's not interested. Whether the man is older, younger, or exactly her age - I think the fact that he is older is completely beside the point. The issue is that - regardless of his age - she's not interested. So when she thought he was interested in her, she should have let him know that the feeling wasn't mutual. Major over-reaction, IMO.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

On 1/30/2015 hckynut said: I am guilty as charged. When I was 21 years old my wife was barely10. What a creep I was/am for falling for such a young child.

${#emotions_dlg.thumbup}$

My Dad is 25 years older than my stepmom, and they've been happily married for 36 years and still going strong.

Love is love, and sometimes it's older men/younger women or older women/younger men! I don't understand why people have a problem with that.

birddrops · ‎07-16-2010

Agree with NYC Susan who said "Major over-reaction, IMO". Especially at the age of 53.

minkbunny · ‎03-09-2010

Dear Me, when I read the thread title I thought a 17 year old was being harassed by an 85 year old man.

But it appears to be a woman in her 50s and a man in his 70s. Not terribly odd at all.

I believe just saying, No - thank you - should suffice.

ETA, Wanted to say Hi! to birddrops. I saw you said hi to me on another thread but got distracted and didn't get to reply.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

At the start of this post, someone noted that Tom Selleck turned 70 so that part isn't so bad if he is asking someone out who is in her 50's. If you don't care to talk to him, I suppose you could lie and say you are married, or you could simply be honest and say you are not looking for a relationship.