Oh for Pete's Sake It's Too Late Now!! - Page 5

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

I think you are being very un kind to her,she is sick,and you are feeling this way about her?

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

vermint · ‎04-05-2010

@goldensrbest One can still be annoyed with people who are sick...especially if they make no attempt to help themselves or change their circumstances (if that's possible). No one likes to hear another person complain constantly, and make excuses about why they can't (won't) try to make things better.

The OP stated a bit farther on in the thread that she does love her sister, and actually would like to live closer to her! She's just frustrated because her sister only wants to complain, and not do anything about anything!

CrazyDaisy · ‎03-20-2010

@vermint wrote:
@goldensrbest One can still be annoyed with people who are sick...especially if they make no attempt to help themselves or change their circumstances (if that's possible). No one likes to hear another person complain constantly, and make excuses about why they can't (won't) try to make things better.

The OP stated a bit farther on in the thread that she does love her sister, and actually would like to live closer to her! She's just frustrated because her sister only wants to complain, and not do anything about anything!

This is one side of the story from a person who seems to be finding fault and becoming annoyed with other family members and friends. Perhaps as someone else mentioned it may be wise to step away and focus on healing yourself. Then you may have a new perspective.

Someday, when scientists discover the center of the Universe....some people will be disappointed it is not them.

LexaMom · ‎03-10-2010

I'm 70, retired in 2014 and I couldn't be happier.. Well - maybe if I didn't have so many chores to do .. but I spend my days with my dog, my hobbies (I have so many of them and some I haven't started learning about), reading my Kindle (I have so many books to read I will never get them done), my garden. I guess I have always been able to entertain myself but maybe your sister could take up something she has always wanted to do - knitting? crocheting? gardening? reading? There are so many things to do in this world. I worked 35 years for the same company and cherish having time for myself now.

zitawins · ‎02-28-2017

Not your circus, not your monkey. (As my darling niece says)

on the bay · ‎03-09-2010

@CrazyKittyLvr2 -

I have found that many times it happens that when someone faces a great loss,

it is easy to become overwhelmed, irritated, frustrated, and far less patient with other people's problems, even when we love them very much.

Sometimes it is good to give ourselves the space we need to heal

before we can help anyone else very well. I guess it is a balance between listening just enough, and not becoming frustrated or overwhelmed with their situation.

This may not be you at all, I just have found that to be true sometimes and would not have realized that loss was a big reason in why we can see and feel things differently then we used to or always have.

I thought the suggestion someone gave about doing something special with her once a month or so was so good. Maybe something you both need and would enjoy.

It does help to vent at times We all can use that once in awhile

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"

DearPrudence · ‎06-19-2010

@CrazyKittyLvr2 I would put her in the car and drive her to a nice casino. Slot machines and lunch are bound to cheer her up.

BeccaLou · ‎02-09-2016

@CalminHeart Yes let your sister bounce ideas off you but just let her vent and decide for herself. And just be there to just listen.

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

@DearPrudence Lunch, yes. I can't think of anything either of us would hate more than a casino. Too crowded, too noisy and it's like putting your money in a pile and setting a match to it.

We have met for lunch several times since she retired.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

She hasn’t really been retired that long...she will find her routine and comfort zone before the year is out. If her DH has always been a couch potato he isn’t likely to change, so she should go on and do whatever she wants to do without him...I’m guessing there is a chance he will come along for the ride.....