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[Othereeeen]

@Kachina624 

I predict QR codes will have the lifespan of 8 track cassette tapes...in other words, in 200 years, people will be trying to scrub that stain ( what IS that?!?!?) off the headstone!!!!

[greamy]

Been seeing pictures of the deceased in their wedding gown. 

[haddon9]

People should do what they are most comfortable with.  

When my mother passed two years ago at 94 most of our relatives and her friends had already gone before her.  My brother and I decided on a cute & fun photo of her when she was in her thirties with both of us kids in it.  She looks great in that photo and very happy!

In later years she suffered a lot.  In her 80s she dealt with a broken hip & osteoporosis then in her later 80s & 90s she had gotten a broken neck and had an aide living with her.  She had gotten frail and stopped going to the hair salon (which she did every week for decades) and let her hair grow longer and get gray.  She did not look her her best at the end.  

I don't see why one wouldn't want to be remembered looking more vibrant and happy.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@781Florist wrote:

Now that we live in the digital age and most newspapers 

are defunct, I often check the funeral home obituaries in my town online.

Something I've noticed for a few years now has puzzled me. 

Often I will see an obit and it jumps out at me because the individual in the picture is in their 20s, 30s, or 40s.

(Which, while certainly possible is generally not the time of life that most folks pass.)

However when reading the obituary it will say what date the person passed and then something like "He (She) was 79" (Or even late 80s etc...)

Does anyone else think that is strange?  I would think a picture of yourself that actually looks like who you are

would help to notify folks of your passing.

I guess people who knew you 40 years ago would be helped!

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@781Florist 

If you don't even recognize the name of the person, I doubt a photo at any age matters.   

Not everyone is photogenic or likes their picture taken, so there may be little to choose from.  

[Shelbelle]

I agree, but I would assume the family would rather show off a photo from yester year than someone who may have been in their 90's.  I see both. 

[2sisters]

When my brother passed away last year his army picture was used.  He was so proud to serve his country.  

[Zhills]

I believe most people use a photo that most family and friends would recognize.  I would do that.  Don't need a recent picture at all!   Don't recognize that little ole lady in the mirror myself!

[monicakm]

@781Florist 

My mother's favorite place to be was in a saddle on a horse. Mine too. She had to stop riding before I did due to back problems. A couple of decades later I had to stop riding for the same reason. Her obituary picture was on her horse from the '70s. She died this past March. I'm glad her obituary photo was of her doing the thing she loved the most. I think it should be whatever the family chooses. Personally, I would hate to look at her obituary picture if it was how she looked when she died.

[sarahpanda]

My DH is in his early 90's.  I plan to post a picture in the obit of him in his mid 50's...reason being:  All of his friends, in particular business friends, would not recognize him now - whereas - they would know who the obit was talking about when they see a photo of him in his younger days.. a 'no brainer' to me.

[qualitygal]

There's a lot of people out there, that don't like their pictures taken.  Some family members like certain pictures of their loved ones as they best remember them.  Whatever is chosen, those who do the choosing will have a certain amount of comfort from the picture. Some people use photos that people who knew them best would recognize them.  As we age, we lose contact with a lot of the people we once were close to, or they've proceeded us in passing. JMO