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[game-on]

felixfan.... I can so relate to what you are going thru.... it is so difficult to set boundaries when the words and actions ""push buttons"" inside us.... hurt us again and again.... I have no words of wisdom.... just words of support.

[LizAnne_1]

It's easy for people to say let it roll off your back but you're obviously hurt by your mom's words. Words cut deeper than knives. A knife can be pulled out, words are embedded into our souls. I have no advice but wanted to let you know that I feel for you.

[CouponQueen]

Hmm my mother called me such a name..she would get a taste of her own medicine! From one B to another!!

[ROMARY]

Sometimes we can wait until the cows come home.........and nobody is about to apologize. I'd just drop it. And move on with my previous life. An apology would be a pleasant surprise, BTW. But I wouldn't count on it.

[RedHeadedWench]

Sounds like we have the same mother. She pulls this sort of stuff with me all the time. Although she has never called me a ban name to my face, I am sure she has either said it to herself, or hung up the phone and said it.

But I have done the same thing. Trouble is, she is one.

I try to let it go, takes a while, but it does go.

[CatsyCline]

just sounds like words were said out of frustration. just let it go. it doesn't appear your family is seriously dysfunctional. and both your sister communicate and you both have started over, which speaks to emotional health.

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

I do not agree with letting any kind of abuse go... Whether it is physical or verbal...

That just says it's ok to do it again,IMHO..

[RainCityGirl]

Everyone's family dynamic is different. I had issues with my mom for reasons I will not go into, but she never called me any names. In fact, no one in my family called one another names. I know other families who throw those names around at will, but they are never taken seriously. So, each person has to decide how to deal with it.

[Lipstickdiva]

I guess I'm rather surprised at the number of people who blurt hurtful things out and apparently don't think anything of it being said to them either.

I might get irritated with my DH over something and we might disagree but I have never, ever called him any kind of unkind name nor has he done that to me. To me that is the epitome of being disrespectful. Likewise, my mother jokingly called me a brat a few times and my sister and I do that with each other but that's as bad as it gets, regardless of how mad we may be with each other or in my mom's case, how made she was at me or me with her. (She is deceased)

I have friends who get into arguments with their SO or DH and the things that are said make me SMH. I was also at a relatives home when she and her adult son got into an argument and she called him an SOB and he in return told her to eff herself!

That wouldn't fly with me.

[Lipstickdiva]

On 2/17/2015 Alley Catvocate said:

I do not agree with letting any kind of abuse go... Whether it is physical or verbal...

That just says it's ok to do it again,IMHO..

OT but it's nice to "see" you. I cannot get it through my head that this is your new nic, even though it clearly says so in your siggy. LOL