Number of invites to bridal shower - Page 4

Demitra1 · ‎03-11-2010

My daughter had, what I thought, was a large shower, but that included her side of the family, her dad's/step-mom's family, and a few of the groom's family. There wer around 40 and it was a luncheon at a country club. Very very nice. Her friends held another in the city were she lives, and the groom's family (from another town) had one. Not an uncommon thing around here.

Elstongunn · ‎03-12-2010

Wow, that's a lot to ask a non-family member to pay for.

I'd tell DD to send the list back for paring down to a manageable number, and that others will have to host the rest some other time at another shower(s).

Funny how distant, casual acquaintances/co-workers suddenly become "very close friends" once they are on the hunt for showers and gift-receiving opportunities. I find it very hard to believe anyone has even 20 truly close friends, unless the definition of "close friend" has changed over the years. Apparently, it has. To me, a close friend is someone with whom you spend the majority of your time communicating with on a regular basis in a meaningful way (not just FB or texting) and who knows most of your most private thoughts and dreams.

Money doesn't talk; it swears. --Bob Dylan

HarDee · ‎03-12-2010

I appreciate everyone's response. My dd is the maid of honor and she wants to host the shower, and I want to help her. I was just caught off guard by the amount of the people on the list. The list was drawn up by the bride and her mom. I am sure not all will come who are invited...I hope anyway ${#emotions_dlg.lol}$ I assumed it would be half that amount and evidently I shouldn't have assumed that.

Thanks again!

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

I would have had them cut the list down OR let someone else provide the space for the shower. It may not be intended as such but it could be interpreted as a gift grab.

FUTURE · ‎04-11-2010

We had a very, very small wedding. I had no intention of having any showers, however, I had a close friend that threw an engagement party, which was attended by our family in town, coworkers, and very close friends. Then, my mothers friends from my hometown threw a nice luncheon shower with kitchen items and everyone brought their favorite recipe (I loved that one, and enjoyed getting recipes from people that love me). My sisters-in-law threw me a VERY small (and tame) personal shower. All of that being said, I only invited people I knew would WANT to come and would be offended if they weren't invited! Some people just go WAY over the top and invite everyone in their address book. I've been to baby showers at church that were come and go, and upwards of 100 people were there. It's crazy! I also wouldn't want all that attention.

BellaPaprika · ‎03-09-2010

Honestly I think it's time for some of these traditions to change with the times. As someone else said, shower gifts used to be small usually household items because the bride was a young girl setting up her first home. Then you gave a big gift for the wedding. Today so many brides have either lived on their own or with their fiance they don't need the small stuff. And it's turned into two big gifts. Makes no sense and very expensive for the guests.

muttmom · ‎11-28-2012

On 6/2/2014 fallsnow56 said:
I appreciate everyone's response. My dd is the maid of honor and she wants to host the shower, and I want to help her. I was just caught off guard by the amount of the people on the list. The list was drawn up by the bride and her mom. I am sure not all will come who are invited...I hope anyway ${#emotions_dlg.lol}$ I assumed it would be half that amount and evidently I shouldn't have assumed that.

Thanks again!

Shouldn't the bridal party not just the MOH host the shower?

When my daughter was getting married, the girls hosted her shower but my husband and I paid for it.