Not Again...

LeoGrl · ‎03-09-2010

I can't believe I have to job search in this market again (UGH!). The store that I was working in closed its doors at the end of the year due to rent issues. I already feel so beaten up and I haven't even sent any resumes out and I've been out of work since December. I woke up so late today with extreme anxiety and sadness and I can't even bring myself to the computer to job search.

A little update on me is that I've been underemployed for the past 3 years due to taking a retail position. I never worked retail before and always had decent paying office jobs, however, in this economy, I took what I could get and surprisingly came to like the job so much that even though the pay was really bad and it was still considered part-time, I loved it and the people I worked with. I even managed to get a little promotion too which gave me a little happy boost. I won't lie and say I was planning on staying forever even though I would have if it paid more and I was able to work there full-time there, however, I guess I'm just scared to get back out there again.

Any advice on how to cope would be helpful. Even though I've been down this road before 3 years ago, it's seems brand new to me again. Thanks for listening!

Jessa9 · ‎12-18-2010

I am so sorry. I can remember when I was young looking for a job and was so depressed I just started to cry walking down the street. Try to stay positive, I know it is hard, especially today the way things are. God be with you and I wish you luck.

Jessa

Peaches McPhee · ‎04-19-2010

You know, sometimes you just have to allow yourself to have a pity party. Cry, wail, eat a pint of ice cream, do whatever you need to do. Get it out of the way, so that you can pick up your boot straps and keep going. You will be able to keep going, because you have to.

Good luckl.

-- pro-aging --

Rochester, New York

JamicaJammer · ‎01-14-2013

LeoGirl - I'm at our library as I type here -- trying to find a job again.

Apparently 35 yrs working non-stop wasn't nearly enough....I have a 21-y/o son in college plus a son just starting HS. I'm a 60-y/o widow.

Trying desperately to find something above minimum wage....good luck on your job hunt!

LeoGrl · ‎03-09-2010

Thanks to you both for your responses. I managed to force myself to revise and redo and then redo again my resume which pretty much took most of the afternoon. Trying hard not to feel sorry for myself but I guess I just feel "lost" right now. Ugh, if i could just get this anxiety under control. Always had it, but I was always able to control it except in unfortunate life situations. Any natural suggestions that anyone have for anxiety? I'm drinking chamomile tea (which is amazing for relaxing at night) and staying away from sugary food and drink. I need to walk, but due to the cold weather I haven't ventured out. Thanks again for listening. It's been a venting day for me. Smile

LeoGrl · ‎03-09-2010

On 1/13/2014 JamicaJammer said:
LeoGirl - I'm at our library as I type here -- trying to find a job again.

Apparently 35 yrs working non-stop wasn't nearly enough....I have a 21-y/o son in college plus a son just starting HS. I'm a 60-y/o widow.

Trying desperately to find something above minimum wage....good luck on your job hunt!

I just saw your post JamicaJammer - I'm sorry you're dealing with this too and I feel your pain!

I know too welll about all the minimum wage jobs, but not much where I'm at here either for full time (and benefits).

Good luck to you too and feel free to vent!

JamicaJammer · ‎01-14-2013

LeoGrl - If I was an empty-nester, I'd sell this home in a heartbeat and downsize, but it's such a wonderful neighborhood, and beautiful home, and the only one my 15-y/o son's ever known. He's doing so well in school, etc., that I really would hate to rock his boat. Raising the boys w/o their dad has been hard enough, on me AND on them, so any stability I can muster, I'm trying to do.

And if I was an empty-nester, I'd be applying for nanny or private housekeeping positions, but I can't shirk my own family for another one.

I'd love part-time, of course, as I don't need health insurance but I'm not working nights, or Sunday mornings, but that's when most PT jobs are.

It's the college bills that are crushing me right now, I think, more than anything.

LeoGrl · ‎03-09-2010

On 1/14/2014 JamicaJammer said:
LeoGrl - If I was an empty-nester, I'd sell this home in a heartbeat and downsize, but it's such a wonderful neighborhood, and beautiful home, and the only one my 15-y/o son's ever known. He's doing so well in school, etc., that I really would hate to rock his boat. Raising the boys w/o their dad has been hard enough, on me AND on them, so any stability I can muster, I'm trying to do.

And if I was an empty-nester, I'd be applying for nanny or private housekeeping positions, but I can't shirk my own family for another one.

I'd love part-time, of course, as I don't need health insurance but I'm not working nights, or Sunday mornings, but that's when most PT jobs are.

It's the college bills that are crushing me right now, I think, more than anything.

My job was "considered" part-time, however, I worked as many hours as I could and those hours would come in right under what was considered full-time. Go figure! That's what they do, however, I do know what you mean about the hours of part-time work . I took anything I could and at times it would get crazy since my schedule was never a set schedule. I would work weekends all the time, sometimes closing on Saturday nights and then opening on Sunday mornings. Some weeks I would be scheduled all nights, others all days, then some a mix and match of both day and night. LOL! I don't have kids so I was able to do this, however, it gets very difficult trying to juggle erractic schedules and hours.

I'm really sorry about your house situation and the college payments. Those are two definitely tough issues. I admire your strength going it alone and trying to get through all this. You do sound like a great mom for caring so much about your son's well-being too. Sending you hugs and hope you can get through this.

karil · ‎07-27-2013

I'm sorry you are going through this. Maybe reconnecting with some of the people you really enjoyed working with -- at your most current job, and even the ones before that -- would give you some valuable info on what others are going through, and what is open. Don't be afraid to network/set up coffee with your contacts who still are working. Keep us posted...