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[PrettyGerl]

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@LilacTree wrote:

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@PrettyGerl wrote:

OP Your "sick" daughter is 30 years younger than you.  MIllions and millions of people like her are suffering from all kinds of chronic illnesses.  Time is on her side and she can withstand a lot more than you can. TIme is not on your side.  You can make excuses, think you are not making excuses, doesn't matter.  What matters is reality.  No one is helping YOU, at least from what I have read that you have written.  I hope you get the help you need for yourself.

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@PrettyGerl

They will help, I know they will.  I am confident of that.  I have asked for help at times and received it from them.  And I always pay them back 100%, so they know that.

You may not all know that all three of my daughters are self supporting with good paying jobs.  Two of them even supported their households when they were married.  My daughter who lives with me paid highly in a marriage that supported her, so I don't know which is worse.  Guess it's a point of view.  She was a hairdresser (and an excellent one), but she is too weak to work anymore.  The others were all college grads (with honors) and I have bragged about that before, so I will stop now.

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OP you are describing what millions deal with.  It is life. There is no one walking on this earth that has not endured varying degrees of drama .   I was in a horrific marriage, I have young children.  I have a stressful 50 -60 hour a week job.  And went through a cancer battle.  But none of that has/will ever stop me from doing everything I can for my mom.  Because in my case I want to, therefore I choose to.  

[sydsgma1]

((Hugs)))Lilac tree...Just one more stressor in your life. Your comment about your dds Lyme treatment not being covered by insurance raised a question. I have dear friend who was diagnosed with full blown Lyme and was treated for over 2 years. She had little out of pocket expense. 

I hoe you can figure out a way to maintain where you live. Hope your ra is tolerable....I have my bad days but they are few and far between. 

Happy holidays to you and yours.

[PrettyGerl]

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@sydsgma1 wrote:

((Hugs)))Lilac tree...Just one more stressor in your life. Your comment about your dds Lyme treatment not being covered by insurance raised a question. I have dear friend who was diagnosed with full blown Lyme and was treated for over 2 years. She had little out of pocket expense. 

I hoe you can figure out a way to maintain where you live. Hope your ra is tolerable....I have my bad days but they are few and far between. 

Happy holidays to you and yours.

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Same as you, my best friend was diagnosed with Lyme about nine months ago, her treatment is covered and she is doing well.  LIke so many diseases/chronic illnesses tens of millions suffer from, each day is a new day... challenges, sometimes come victories.  We all simply want peace for ourselves, for others.

[LilacTree]

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@PrettyGerl wrote:

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@LilacTree wrote:

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@PrettyGerl wrote:

OP Your "sick" daughter is 30 years younger than you.  MIllions and millions of people like her are suffering from all kinds of chronic illnesses.  Time is on her side and she can withstand a lot more than you can. TIme is not on your side.  You can make excuses, think you are not making excuses, doesn't matter.  What matters is reality.  No one is helping YOU, at least from what I have read that you have written.  I hope you get the help you need for yourself.

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@PrettyGerl

They will help, I know they will.  I am confident of that.  I have asked for help at times and received it from them.  And I always pay them back 100%, so they know that.

You may not all know that all three of my daughters are self supporting with good paying jobs.  Two of them even supported their households when they were married.  My daughter who lives with me paid highly in a marriage that supported her, so I don't know which is worse.  Guess it's a point of view.  She was a hairdresser (and an excellent one), but she is too weak to work anymore.  The others were all college grads (with honors) and I have bragged about that before, so I will stop now.

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OP you are describing what millions deal with.  It is life. There is no one walking on this earth that has not endured varying degrees of drama .   I was in a horrific marriage, I have young children.  I have a stressful 50 -60 hour a week job.  And went through a cancer battle.  But none of that has/will ever stop me from doing everything I can for my mom.  Because in my case I want to, therefore I choose to.  

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@PrettyGerl

(((to you PrettyGerl))) !!!

[LilacTree]

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@PrettyGerl wrote:

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@sydsgma1 wrote:

((Hugs)))Lilac tree...Just one more stressor in your life. Your comment about your dds Lyme treatment not being covered by insurance raised a question. I have dear friend who was diagnosed with full blown Lyme and was treated for over 2 years. She had little out of pocket expense. 

I hoe you can figure out a way to maintain where you live. Hope your ra is tolerable....I have my bad days but they are few and far between. 

Happy holidays to you and yours.

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Same as you, my best friend was diagnosed with Lyme about nine months ago, her treatment is covered and she is doing well.  LIke so many diseases/chronic illnesses tens of millions suffer from, each day is a new day... challenges, sometimes come victories.  We all simply want peace for ourselves, for others.

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@PrettyGerl@sydsgma1

OMG!  Where do you gals live and what kind of doctors are these?  And what kind of insurance do you have?  That's awesome!!

[goldensrbest]

@LilacTree,i really think paying that amount for rent is outrageous, if your daughter,and you could move out of state you two would be together.

[goldensrbest]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

I have to say that these people who so very cavalierly advise/admonish "You need to move somewhere cheaper, even if it's out of state!" crack me up.

Really? At the age of almost 80, would *you* do that, *just* for cheaper rent and no other reason? AWAY from the family that pitches in to help when help is needed?

Rent in X city, or state, is "too expensive" so everyone needs to move away from there? You do understand that for those still working, the salaries are also higher than in low-rent areas? That's one reason why the rents are higher.

There may not BE a nearby town, or even state, with lower rents; they may be pretty much the same for hundreds of miles. "Affordable" rent may be (and usually is) in unsafe areas with high(er) crime. But hey, it's cheaper, so just do it, right?

Whatever one needs, "just do it"!  SMH at the naivete and ignorance, not to mention the tunnel vision.

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She and her daughter does not work, because of being sick,and age also.

[software]

Me too.

I am not rocking the boat.

I get the rent monthly, no whining, no excuses, no damage.

But if he ever moves out, I will raise the rent.

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@libbyannE wrote:

We own a small rental house in the ' burbs and have kept the rent the same for the current tenant for about 8 years, even though we definitely could charge more. Why? She pays on time! And she's a divorced single mom. Why rock the boat? A good tenant deserves such consideration. We all win.

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[Moonchilde]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

I have to say that these people who so very cavalierly advise/admonish "You need to move somewhere cheaper, even if it's out of state!" crack me up.

Really? At the age of almost 80, would *you* do that, *just* for cheaper rent and no other reason? AWAY from the family that pitches in to help when help is needed?

Rent in X city, or state, is "too expensive" so everyone needs to move away from there? You do understand that for those still working, the salaries are also higher than in low-rent areas? That's one reason why the rents are higher.

There may not BE a nearby town, or even state, with lower rents; they may be pretty much the same for hundreds of miles. "Affordable" rent may be (and usually is) in unsafe areas with high(er) crime. But hey, it's cheaper, so just do it, right?

Whatever one needs, "just do it"!  SMH at the naivete and ignorance, not to mention the tunnel vision.

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She and her daughter does not work, because of being sick,and age also.

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*facepalm*

[LilacTree]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

@LilacTree,i really think paying that amount for rent is outrageous, if your daughter,and you could move out of state you two would be together.

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@goldensrbest

Can't do it golden, I know you mean well, but it's too much for both of us, and I know she won't want to go.