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[Burnsite]

Airports and flying are dangerous right now.  I would stay home if she insisted on joining the group. Quarantine is so difficult but it has to be endured while it remains necessary.

[loveschocolate]

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@Bannafanna wrote:

I live in a small neighborhood. We have a group of four neighbors who walk and swim for daily exercise. We practice the 6 foot rule walking and swimming. One of our group is flying out to the mountains for a week of new sights. It's my feeling that when she returns, she needs to quarantine for 10 to 14 days. She, the traveler, disagrees. She feels like she can return home and step back in to the exercise group. Am I being too ridged by not wanting to be exposed to her after air flight and trip?

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@Bannafanna , I would advise a Covid-19 test upon returning. I myself am going to the mountains Tuesday, although we are driving. I scheduled my test through Walgreens here, where I live upon returning. You fill out a form online and it's free and no doctor's order is required. Of course, she needs to self quarantine until she receives her results back. 

[Porcelain]

She might be able to avoid infected people in the mountains, but flying is another matter. That's risky behavior (that some are forced to take due to circumstances) and it is irresponsible for her to not admit that. She can put herself at risk but she has no right to do that to your exercise group.

Either she goes on a temporary hiatus from the group or the group should go on a temprary hiatus from her. Either way, you'd be wise to have your own temporary hiatus to keep away from both her and any drama.

You don't want to deal with any lingering ugly feelings about this. And this kind of thing can bring up a lot of yuck, and reveal people to be a lot ickier than you ever thought they were. Better not to know how some folks really feel, but still keep yourself safe.

[Snooky60]

@Bannafanna - I definitely agree with you. I wish you strength to confront her. 💗

[EatWell]

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@Bannafanna wrote:

I live in a small neighborhood. We have a group of four neighbors who walk and swim for daily exercise. We practice the 6 foot rule walking and swimming. One of our group is flying out to the mountains for a week of new sights. It's my feeling that when she returns, she needs to quarantine for 10 to 14 days. She, the traveler, disagrees. She feels like she can return home and step back in to the exercise group. Am I being too ridged by not wanting to be exposed to her after air flight and trip?

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@Bannafanna 

You do not know who she will be in contact with.   They could be asymptomatic and give the virus to your neighbor.  And then spread the virus to you and others..

Refer to CDC guidelines for travel.

JMO

“Stay safe. Stay home.”

[millieshops]

@Bannafanna I'm with you and the majority of your group.  There's a friend in one of my groups who is not taking precautions.  When we're getting together now, I have been asking who is joining us. I won't go if she is included, but apparently I'm far from alone.  I haven't had to name any names, but I haven't had to refuse any invitations in the last 6 weeks. 

[kitcat51]

When she returns just walk & swim by yourself...you only have control over you, that's it.

[Twins Mom]

I agree with most posters.  if she continues with this attitudes it will be up to you to take the necessary precautions by not being near where she goes.  Unfortunately that means you might miss your swimming activities with your friends.  

We can't control others.  While we hope everyone keeps distance, others forget and gravitate.  Potential thus expands.  

My suggestion, if she does not stay away from other friends,  you must stay away from all for awhile. 

[Zhills]

I talked with a friend, who had visited a friend (recently) and told me that the friend's daughter had be to visit him. 

The daughter found out that her friend was positive for Covid-19.

NO. You don't want this feeling!  Was I?  Am I safe?  Is it possible?  No, you don't want this feeling!  Stay away from her!

[Porcelain]

To all the people who keep saying you can't control others: of course not. But you can make a request. And you can do all sorts of things as a reaction to a refusal to comply with a request. Meek passivity is not the only option. There are compassionate civil responses that are still assertive and proactive.

If enough members of any group don't want you around because you aren't cooperating, they can kick you out and have every right to do that. We all have a lot of power over each other without having to control or manipulate anyone.