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[patticakes]

We have a friend (more like an acquaintance) who lives completely across the country who we've only seen face to face 3 times in 20 years. She was a friend of a friend. She's a very bold, imposing woman and not really one that we would associate with on a day to day basis if she lived near us. Well, now she's coming to our area of the country on a work related trip and has invited herself to our house to spend a few days. First, she wanted to come for Thanksgiving week and we very nicely told her that wasn't going to work. Now, again, she's invited herself to come for a long weekend visit and we're trying to avoid that without seeming hurtful or blunt; but, I'm thinking with one so pushy and presuming, it's hard to get the message across without being very direct. We've told her we'll meet up with her at a location that's about midway for both of us and spend one overnight so we could visit but that's not seeming to satisfy her. What would you do?

[handygal2]

If you let this woman make the rules now, you're setting a bad precedent for the future. I would be very firm in telling her that your house isn't set up for overnight visitors, or that you're already "booked" with other overnight guests for that weekend. I think your idea of meeting her "halfway" and staying overnight is more than reasonable. Good luck, and let us know how it turns out!

[Suziepeach]

I'd tell her I had other plans but would meet her halfway, as you originally suggested.  I don't mean to be rude but what an imposition especially at a holiday, when you probably do have your own plans. 

[Preds]

This is an old post from 2010.

[SydneyH]

Cut to the chase and be truthful, why drag it out?

[brii]

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@Preds wrote:

This is an old post from 2010.

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LOL

I wonder whatever happened.

[Suziepeach]

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@Preds wrote:

This is an old post from 2010.

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@Preds, well then let's hope this person got it all worked out.. LOL

[Mj12]

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@Preds wrote:

This is an old post from 2010.

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Then I'm going out on a limb here and say that the vist already happened.  Or not.

[Preds]

Hey @patticakes ... Whatever happened?  Enquiring minds need to know.

[missy1]

No...... Here is a list of local hotels/motels to stay at.