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[lynnie61]

Nope, it's best he's an ex.   I have one guy friend from 30 years ago (we weren't a couple), That I run into occasionally, and we talk like it was yesterday.  He has a great wife and kids and is a super nice guy.  

My guy is the BEST!  We're not married, but perfectly happy (both of us). 

[JoyFilled Warrior]

Years ago, High School/College, I was seeing (not doing anything I considered dating), with a guy, of whom my forceful Mom, & her friends selected & were super pressuring me to see & marry.  So they foisted this young family friend on me for supposedly "dating."

Hovered over by my Mom/her friends, he & I saw one another for quite awhile, only over *my house, or *his parents house, or only watching *him race cars, or only see hobby photos *he'd taken. 

    In the meantime, my life, on my own, was uber exciting MY way.

  He was sooo sure that I'd been convinced to marry him, he wrongly told his sweet parents I accepted.  So his average-income parents went all in,  bought us a handsome piece of land, near them, & they started sinking money into that property for us, building a house, setting up water, electricity, ex "perking" it, (whatever that was) 

    Y'know, I wondered why his sweet Mom would sit me down with catalogues, thumbing thru styles of furniture, decor, & introducing me to her family's heirloom dishes.  I thought she was just a sweet woman, making own womanly conversation together.

When I found out he lied to his sweet parents, & told them I'd said "yes, to marriage,"      

         All hell broke loose!

Uncharacteristically, he was like a volcano erupted! I was dumbfounded!  He was utterly, incredibly hateful, nasty, offensive, picky, attacking every little thing about me, (which perhaps he'd surpressed)?  WHOA!!! 

THIS is what marriage would have been with him!  No Way!

    With time, I knew what he really wanted was not a relationship with a wife, but all the trappings of white picket fence, & simply, literally, a w0mb for (*his) kids, work *his job, & virtually that was the extent of what *he considered marriage!  No kidding!  And there's NO WAY I was going to go for that. 

Abt 15 yrs back, I called him, just out of curiosity.  He was sooo sooo incredibly, uber bitter!!  His ex-wife produced him 2 girls, that he only exuded pride about the girls education.  That's it. 

     And complained uber bitterly that his ex-wife was in a relationship, living in *his "white picket fence home" with her b/f.   And that *he wouldnt be able to retire when *he thought *he planned *he would.

WHOA!  I dodged a bullet there, even tho I was young, & under such profound adult pressure.

               

[Goodie2shoes]

@ JoyFilled Warrior

WOW !! all I can say is you DID dodge a bullet  !!