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I'm so sorry for your loss

Yes you will feel numb and I'm not one to cry either.  Maybe that's "normal'

I do remember crying myself to sleep every night when he was alive on hospice.   But after his passing I felt a relief, not for myself but knowing his pain was over.   

It's a good idea moving closer to family but please let someone help you to make all the little decisions to meet your goal.   Your head may be a bit fuzzy, it's a good idea to have a trusted friend or family member to bounce off.

@vicki is ok

[Imaoldhippie]

Sorry for your loss.  You are going through the grieving process all your feelings are to be expected.  It has been my experience that it will take at least a year for you to get through it.  Maybe more maybe less. Everyone grieves in their own way and time.  Dont try to block anything out or hurry through it, allow yourself the time it takes for you.  Prayers for you and your family.

[Snoopp]

So sorry for your loss.

It's shock and very normal.  Many people have found a bereavement group helpful.  The hospice group, doctor, or local hospital can probably help you find one nearby.

[Jen44]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you comfort and peace. 

[Beansey]

Your feelings are so normal and your loss is so great. know how much we care. Hugs to you. 

[Poodlepet2]

@vicki is ok, it sounds as if you are in the throes of depression....I say that based on my own experience. I felt nothing-couldn't cry or find amusement in anything...felt restless, didn't sleep....I didn't want to eat ( although some overeat)...at times, I felt panic.

Death of your partner is so very much to take in. Please don't hesitate to seek counseling. Dealing with an adult disabled child is quite a bit right there-in addition to losing your husband.

Reach out to a therapist-you will be glad you did.

Hugs,

Poodlepet2

[alicedee]

I'm so very sorry for your loss.  You still have a very full plate taking care of your daughter.  Usually "they" say not to make any major changes right away....but in your case, it sounds like a very good plan to move closer to family.  You and your daughter will need that support system.

I lost my sister a couple months ago, and the hospice here offers grief counseling to the family....perhaps you can check with hospice and see what they have available.

It's very normal to feel numb...you've been through an emotional upheaval.  Be gentle with yourself, and try not to isolate yourself...reach out to others, whether through your church, a support group, a friend or family member.  I'll keep you in my prayers.  

[Cakers3]

@vicki is ok  I am looking at your nic and read it as "vicki is ok".  Someday you will be ok.

There is an inner strength that will eventually lift you up and out; not so that you forget but so that your life will still have meaning that is yet unlocked.

You are on a path with no experience; it  takes time to find your footing and direction.

Grief leads you now but someday grief will walk behind you.  It doesn't go away completely but it will diminish in time. 

I am sending you all the best and may you be surrounded in comforting light during this very sad time.

[tends2dogs]

@vicki is ok  I am so sorry for the loss of your husband.  The tears will come when you least expect it.  Your heartache will ease in time and transition to sweet memories.  Of course, this isn't an overnight process.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter during this time. 

[OfCourse]

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@Poodlepet2 wrote:

@vicki is ok, it sounds as if you are in the throes of depression....I say that based on my own experience. I felt nothing-couldn't cry or find amusement in anything...felt restless, didn't sleep....I didn't want to eat ( although some overeat)...at times, I felt panic.

Death of your partner is so very much to take in. Please don't hesitate to seek counseling. Dealing with an adult disabled child is quite a bit right there-in addition to losing your husband.

Reach out to a therapist-you will be glad you did.

Hugs,

Poodlepet2

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Great advice, Poodlepet2!  Being near family is a good idea.  What about looking for a group of grieving spouses and attending to see if it helps.  It is true that time is a great healer.