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[GoneButNotForgotten]

For the last few years, I've been working with a pain doctor, who is really a hoot. He's Chinese and with his heavy accent he used to say, "Sally, you're smart because you a blonde", and we'd laugh hysterically.

Anyway, he has a dear young man working with him as his medical assistant and he's a sweetheart of a guy. Earlier this year he applied to several medical schools, and so far he's been turned by them all. Every once in a while I'd ask how his applications were working out and he'd give me some vague answer. I figured he'd been turned down and I didn't want to make him feel bad by pestering him so I let it drop.

I was in the office last week and somehow the subject of marriage came up. Now, this young man is only 24 and he got married when he was just 20 years old--much too young, in my opinion.

I don't remember how the subject of his marriage came up but it did, and he said, rather sadly, that his wife had dumped him back in July, on their anniversary, and is with someone else now.

I feel so bad for him, as can anyone who's ever been dumped (a boyfriend of mine give me the heave-ho on Christmas Eve so I can sympathize). There's not much I can do for him but remind him that karma's going to get her--you don't do that kind of thing without it coming back to bite you.

If you're so inclined, please send some good vibes, good karma, whatever, his way.

[SportyShorty07]

@GoneButNotForgotten  Wow, my ex boyfriend blindsided me with a breakup on Christmas Eve too- it was in 2019 and I refer to my ex as "The Holiday Heartbreaker"!  Its such a shame that your young friend's wife left him on their anniversary- such heartless timing on her part and karma will come back to her.  He sounds like a hard working, kind and intelligent young man and a real catch.  Please tell him that when one door closes another opens and that in most cases, break ups are a blessing because you can find someone even better.  I'd take him on a date if I lived near him, but I'm 11 years older than him .  He's young and he's got a whole life ahead of him- he will be a-ok.  He just needs to focus on his work, happiness and friendships and when he's ready he can go on the dating apps and find a lovely young lady who will be lucky to be with him .  

[KingstonMom]

@GoneButNotForgotten 

He's lucky, she showed her true character or should I say, lack of character.

[meallen616]

Just tell him to try to think positive, stay focused and keep moving forward! 

[Carmie]

You really never know people.  Maybe she dumped him for a good reason.

You can't assume he is a good guy and she's the bad one.

[chrystaltree]

You only know one side. She might have had good reasons for leaving him.

[chrystaltree]

You only know one side. She might have had good reasons for leaving him.

[Etoile308]

I seldom place blame when a relationship ends. If one ends then there's a reason. A reason that only festers and grows.

It's usually for the best, but no one wants to hear it's for the best. All you can do is wish happiness in the future.

How one presents themselves in public is not always how they are in private.

[Sassycoco]

@GoneButNotForgotten

How nice of you to have such compassion for this young man ❤️

Regardless, of "who is at fault " I know, I'm certainly not perfect.....rather....Perfectly Imperfect !

"This too shall pass " was always comforting to me ☺️ ...along with " Karma"

it's never easy dealing with a break up or divorce !

I'm wishing him well ,better days are ahead!
❤️

[CalminHeart]

Everyone gets dumped sometime. I feel bad for people going through it but it's a fact of life.